wasnt sure if this fit here, but im uncertain about it, and its a question... I made friends with a girl awhile back because we were both depressed. we shared the same loneliness, and social anxiety behaviors. we talked for about 9 months, on and off. we eventually shared numbers, though we never called. i really liked her, but we didnt want an LDR, unless we would meet and we didnt want to meet. over the months the experiences with her became habitual and i began to dread the same responses of negativity and problems. when we first talked, it helped that someone else felt the same. now that i know others feel the same, i discuss other issues. I decided since I didnt want to end the friendship, to just not talk, and put distance between us. Its been awhile now, and I still dont want to end or keep the friendship. what do I do? when she steps forward, i step back. this is normally when theres a problem, and i feel forced to help, or im going to make her feel even worse by rejecting her when shes already down. I dont want to tell her not to talk to me, because I still like her as a friend. I dont want to be selfish though and only talk when i want to talk. yet when she wants to talk, im not interested.