full life?

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Unregistered - curious, Aug 21, 2008.

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  1. i feel like im fairly accomplished - good education, job, family and friends. however, im worried that i cant get to the next step in life such as getting married and having a family. i feel that this would be the next accomplishment and something for me to live for. im in my early 30s and have time to attempt to reach this goal. however, what if that is not in my future. is it "wrong" to want to set a deadline and end it all because by that time i will have lived a full life and done what ive wanted to. my only hesitation would be for those who would be sad because of that. however, at the end of the day you live your own life and such. im very curious to know what everyone thinks of this
     
  2. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    i don't think you should set a deadline to get married and start a family. Whos knows, you may set the date and the very next day the person you had been looking for shows up. It is not unreasonable for you to want these things, but for some it isn't meant to be. There are no sure ways to tell. Live your life to the fullest with what you have for the time being, and as new and better things come along, enjoy them too.
     
  3. blinky

    blinky Active Member

    Hmm a lot of people don't end up getting married but still have plenty to live for, it's only one part of life. Not being married but having family and friends is probably better than being married just because you "should be" and not having any friends. Marriage can end up causing a lot of pain if it falls apart, for the couple and any children and the families generally, which i assume tends to happen more often with rushed marriages. I think having it as a goal is alright, we all need goals, but it's not vital? This isnt something you can do all on your own power before a certain date like other things, so setting a deadline is pretty unreasonable for yourself. You're never too old to get married, remember that!
     
  4. Dave_N

    Dave_N Guest

    Having goals such as getting married and setting a possible timeline is a good idea. However, if you do not meet this deadline, and you kill yourself because of that then I would say that you're a damn fool. There is no set age that you have to be married by. Age 30 to 40 is a good age to get married, but if you don't accomplish this, no big deal. You could always have kids outside of wedlock, like many people do. Though I would prefer to get married then have kids.
     
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