gave kittens away and feeling very alone and hopeless

[DreamingRecovery]

as of today i gave my kittens away. my kittens helped me to not feel alone and gave me purpose in life.

i gave them away because i wasnt getting enough sleep with them around, and i was often quite stressed from lack of time to myself with continually babysitting them. as a result my eating habits got worse and worse. i lost about 15-20lbs in a few months. and people started noticing, and telling me straight out. some people dont even look me in the eyes anymore. its embarassing.

now with them gone i feel empty and void. just like before. depression is now on my mind and i feel like doing unsafe things.

my doctor told me i could double my meds if i ever felt the need to, and i might. though it would take a few weeks to see a difference.

i guess i'll write a poem about how i'm feeling. it wont be a pretty one.

i know there's nothing you guys can do to help. i just wanted to reach out.

thank you for reading

 

[itachi]

awwwww Hun I feel so sorry for you i know how it feels to Lose your pets :sad:

 

[joce]

İm really sorry to hear about you having to give up your kittens. İ just wanted to say I know how you feel. Please do write a poem - do anything that might help.

 

[DreamingRecovery]

thanks jas and joce,

i just woke up. this is my first time sleeping past 8:30am in 3 months. it's 11:00am. i'm happy for the sleep, and i know this is best for the long run.

i think a hobby might be a good idea. :wink:

dreamer

 

[claycad]

i gave them away because i wasnt getting enough sleep with them around, and i was often quite stressed from lack of time to myself with continually babysitting them.

Good god, how many cats did you have? I'm all for pets to not make a person feel lonely and all, but one, maybe two is enough. More than that is ridiculous! I've had dogs and cats both growing up as a kid. Usually only one at a time. Eventually they learned to sleep when I sleep and eat when I eat. I didn't neglect them by any means, but I certainly didn't lose sleep or time taking care of them.

I wasted time on them by playing with them, but that's time I wanted to waste. After all, that’s the fun of having a pet or two is being able to play with them.

Why not get one or two cats back? It doesn't take very much time at all to invest in them, and show them who’s the boss - that being you - they will learn to sleep when you sleep etc.

If one or two cats is all you had to begin with and you lost sleep and 20lbs because it was too much responsibility taking care of one or two cats, well, no offense, but I would guess you have bigger problems then the cats and should probably seek out therapy if you haven't all ready. Not intentionally trying to sound mean, just giving an honest opinion.

But really, I think anybody could handle the responsibilty of one cat, so I fail to understand why you had to give them ALL away. Ask for one back or get a new one. If it was the kittens that were a pain (I known having to feed them with a bottle can be) then get a full grown cat. Or dog, dogs are way better IMO anyway. Or gold fish, they can help lonliness and are really low maintence.

 

[Claire_UK]

OK, you had to - or felt you had to - give up your kittens, it's done. Now stop whatever it is you're doing and take youself down to your local pet rescue centre. Get yourself an adult cat - or two. They're more independant, less needy and make a hell of a lot less noise. There are so many adult cats out there which need a good home, you would not only be doing yourself a good turn but giving a furry a second chance. Go for it.

 

[~CazzaAngel~]

I think that's a good idea you could ask the pet center/shelter for a cat that's maybe 1-3 years old. The cat should be grown and less noisey and needy. :hug:





Take Care sweetie. :hug:



xxx

 

[theleastofthese]

Note to Claycad:

It is your opinion that more than one or two pets is ridiculous - I am of a different opinion. We have sharing our home one dog, six cats, one rat, one rabbit, two mice, and two budgies. We give all our critters a good and loving home and consider all of them important parts of our lives. Their financial upkeep is in my budget so it's not like they are taking money away from paying bills etc. Anyway, it's a matter of personl choice how many pets one has at any given time. For me, the more the merrier. Just my opinion....:smile:

least, the animal-hugger

 

[~CazzaAngel~]

Note to Claycad:

It is your opinion that more than one or two pets is ridiculous - I am of a different opinion. We have sharing our home one dog, six cats, one rat, one rabbit, two mice, and two budgies. We give all our critters a good and loving home and consider all of them important parts of our lives. Their financial upkeep is in my budget so it's not like they are taking money away from paying bills etc. Anyway, it's a matter of personl choice how many pets one has at any given time. For me, the more the merrier. Just my opinion....:smile:

least, the animal-hugger

Aww, I wuv animals. If I had a choice I'd have several animals and few people..lol Sorry. Anyway...I can't have more than my kitty emma right now. And my evil husband sold my dog. But I have ALWAYS been an animal lover. I probably got it from my grandmother. She always had lots of animals inside and out. And there would always be strays and she'd catch them, take them to the vets get them nuetered/spayed, shots then let them go again lol....she has some bad diseases and can't really walk and still goes out and feeds the animals. :cat: :dog:


Anyway, my blabber mouthing is over lol.


:hug:


:cat:


With hugs,
Carolyn.

 

[DreamingRecovery]

claycad, Claire_UK, painNsiolence, least, Carolyn:

no more cats. no animals whatsoever. i just wanna forget about all this. maybe a little time to myself might help.

thanks for the replies but i'm too emotional to respond at the moment.

* hugs *

 

[~CazzaAngel~]

claycad, Claire_UK, painNsiolence, least, Carolyn:

no more cats. no animals whatsoever. i just wanna forget about all this. maybe a little time to myself might help.

thanks for the replies but i'm too emotional to respond at the moment.

* hugs *

Ok, just bare in mind we are here if you need us.


:hug: :hug: :hug:


~Carolyn

 

[DreamingRecovery]

Ok, just bare in mind we are here if you need us.

thank you so much.

sometimes you guys may think you havent helped me from my response. but you really have. if you knew how cared for i felt just to hear a response you'd know that i really appreciate it.

i just wanted you to know that.

:hug:

 

[ilene]

Hey sweetie, I'm so sorry that you had to give them away. But the sleep will do you good. It's hard to pull out of a depression when you can't get enough sleep. I just want you to know that I care about you and I know how it feels to be lonely. And I don't judge you--whether you had 100 cats, 6 cats or 1 cat, it's your business, and your life. I'm just glad you reached out to share your pain. Sometimes just expressing it helps me. There are lots of people here who understand how you feel. Hang in there. Hearts and Hugs, Ilene

 

[claycad]

Note to Claycad:
It is your opinion that more than one or two pets is ridiculous

I've never said it wasn't just my opinion, but I agree, I should have made it more clear that it was.

There is nothing wrong with having as many animals as you want if you can take care of them without it interfering with normal behavior. But when you are losing sleep and weight because you have too many pets, well, then that's ridiculous...in my opinion:ohmy:

I still fail to understand why you had to give ALL your pets away Dreaming?…are you sure there isn’t something more you want to talk about?