my current (on-again, off-again) girlfriend says that we can't be together because i treat her like a trophy and don't like doing "work" for our relationship. she says i only like having the idea of a girlfriend. this is so untrue though! i love her with all my heart, we do go to schools in different cities but i've never gone over a week without seeing her at least once, i make a point of talking to her all the time while at school but it's never enough. i come back home from school and spend all my time with her, my family hates me for being so unavailable to them and she says that i spend too much time with friends and that i don't take our relationship seriously. last month our phone bill said we spoke for +60,000 minutes, but she still has the audacity to say this about me. I live on res and she doesn't so she gets lonely (having no roommates) i have to ask her permission to hang out with friends, go out to eat, what i can get to eat, and even go to the bathroom when we're one the phone! i'm not saying i'm the best boyfriend in the world but i'm trying my best and i'm afraid it'll never be enough for her. it sucks. i love her more than anything, and she just doesn't think i do... what do i do? she's the love of my life and when we're good i'm so happy, it's just when she starts to feel unsure about the relationship / me that things go to shit and i get depressed. the last time she broke up with me i lost 10 pounds in 3 days... i have a heart condition and am afraid that this relationship is killing me... but i don't know if i can live without her. she means the world to me and even thinking about losing her makes me sick to my stomach.