I've been in a relationship with this girl for seven months now, and even though I really care for her it is not working out. She's had a rough life and things are hard for her, and she needs me to be her strength, which is fine, except that we're together nearly 24/7 and when we're not we're on the phone, which prevents me from doing homework, etc. There's a lot more to it as well, but this is the main thing that worries me, because I'm going off to college later this year and she wants to come with me; not go to the same school, but maybe another school in the area or maybe just get an apartment and work. Thing is, seeing as we are together all the time now and she gets distraught when we are not, I know if we go off to some city together and I have to live in the dorms or something and not with her, it will be very hard, and I know she'll be needing me to come over all the time or talk on the phone for hours a day, because that's the way it is now, and this will, I am sure, prevent me from getting any work done in college as it is doing in high school. For less selfish reasons, I am worried that I simply won't be able to spend as much time with her as I would like to, or as she needs me to, and she will be in a strange city with no one to turn to for support--except me. (Although to be honest, what family she has in our home town isn't much support and is more of a problem than anything, but I still feel bad taking her away from what home she has: her mom ended up in poverty by following a guy she thought she loved to a new city.) So my rational mind tells me, for both our sakes, this should end. However, if we break up she will kill herself. Today we got in an argument over the phone and she hung up on me. Soon after she came over and gave my stuff back to me, which constituted the umpteenth time she has broken up with me. Dutifully, I followed her out to her car and we cried and stuff for several hours, etc., I went inside and she drove off. This is the closest we've ever come to breaking up. A few minutes later she called me, hysterical, and I managed to make out that she wanted me to come out to her car parked outside. So, fearing for her, I did, just in time to unwrap the seatbelt she had tightly wrapped around her neck. Then she cried until she passed out, and upon waking a few minutes later she had lost all memory of everything since the previous evening. This has happened before, and it seems to get worse; I really don't want it to happen in a new city if she follows me to college. So we are still together now, because this incident has shattered any hope I had for being able to break up with her without killing her, which is something I definitely don't want to do. So what should I do? Also, though she knows she needs medication, she can't afford it.