Gotta visit a phsycologist soon...

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  1. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    After talking about me being very depressed and wanting to commit suicide to my dad about a week ago, he's decided I should seek help and pay a visit to my phsycologist next week.

    I'm pretty nervous about it. Right now, I'm in a relatively good mood. I'd just feel embarrased to tell him what makes me feel suicidal, even I sometimes don't know, I sometimes don't have a concrete solid reason/s for killing myself.
    I'd feel ashamed and embarrased to tell him.

    I guess I feel embarrased because I'm the only one in my entire family and everyone I know to see a phychologist. :shy:

    All of my parent's friend's children and my relatives and other kids I know are all so happy and carefree, never having the slightest inkling of suicide, at least they never ever give me that impression. They could be hiding it but I doubt it, they are just all all around better than me. Wait, I think thats one reason I want to die, I feel or am inferior to all those around me...

    I had visited him a couple of times late last year but it didn't do anything.
    Wish me luck you guys...please? :nerves:
  2. Just see him with an open mind. This may be the only person who may give you insight on what makes you happy. Don't focus on what others will think. Focus on how to help yourself.

    Good luck. You are making a very big step in your future and your life.
  3. sudut

    sudut Well-Known Member

    good you are gonna see a specialist.
    remember nobody can persecute you 'but your own thoughts'. please don't assume too much and if you can't help, just ask them what they really think about your worth, if you really believe that your worth is tied to other people's approval. you are unique rahul in this world rahul. there is only 1 rahul. i suggest you go to a different part of the world for studies and see more in this world then you'll know how insignificant your range of comparison is.
  4. Convergence

    Convergence Guest

    Hey Rahul. Don't know if that's your name, but whatever.

    I read about what happened earlier before, how someone your dad knew, or something searched your name. I'm sorry to hear that, hope you can get through it. I know I'm not saying much...I'm just too weak.

    Just remember that you'll be ok. Atleast your getting help, right?

    Trust yourself...what does your heart tell you?
  5. LtRoarke

    LtRoarke Guest

    Good luck. Try to calm yourself down before the appointment and don't think about what you're going to say. When I have to talk to somebody about an important topic I find that I'm always more relxed if I go into the conversation without a "plan". The words flow better and my thoughts are fresh. The psychologist will help you to sort out your thoughts. Tell him/her that you are nervous (or whatever you're feeling) and I promise you'll feel much better. Try not to dwell on the appointment-it will go well and (again) you'll feel so much better after expressing your feelings to somebody who wont judge you. Good luck, Rahul!
  6. Shadowplay

    Shadowplay Staff Alumni

    :hug: I don't know what more there is to say, but I hope it goes well :)
  7. Luliby

    Luliby Staff Alumni

    Honesty. Very important in therapy. If you are not sure what is causeing you to feel suicidal thats ok, your not sure. If you feel singled out in your family and somehow "not right" thats ok. These are your feelings. Feelings are not truth, they are emotions and usually the result of an emotional provocation or thought.

    For the longest time I was telling my therapist I have no idea where these intense feelings of depression and anxiety were coming from. I just felt them! and when I tried to think back and follow them to some source I was confused, had a few leads.. but ultimately it was like the bermuda triangle inside me. Sometimes suicidal thoughts felt like such an everyday occurence I think I had them just out of habit!

    Your ok. Just be honest and let the therapist do the rest.
  8. koukou63

    koukou63 Antiquitie's Friend

    Hi. I'm the only one in my family who has seen a psychologist. It was tough in the beginning, everyone knowing and wondering why I had to go and if they would be discussed. I think that a lot of people fear things like psychologists through ignorance. They think we will be lying on leather sofas discussing our families all the time when often that just isn't the case. You talk about what is important to you (well I did) and often its not about the things the people who take us to see mental health professionals think.

    Make the best out of the time with your psychologist.... they can be really helpful and make it easier for you to come to grips and live with the issues that cause you pain.

    Good luck!!!

    Koukou xxx
  9. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    I'll be visiting him this Wednesday, very nervous. :sad:
  10. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    Yep, going tomorrow, not sure what to say to the guy, I don't even know where to begin, I am a complete screwup, it would be better if I just died right now and hopefully could start life again from scratch (I beleive in reincarnation myself). Sounds stupid but whatever.
    Hope he can help me out, got to start university this Monday, I'll be the only fucking miserable one there out of 30,000.
  11. Ignored

    Ignored Staff Alumni

    I can guarantee that that won't be the case, although I admit that it might well feel like that. Hope you manage to open up to the psychologist.... just start from where you are right now and it'll soon lead to the heart of the problem.
  12. sudut

    sudut Well-Known Member

    what did he tell you? share with us.
  13. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    I'm going in just about 50 minutes, now I feel very nervous and am afraid I'll freeze up and not be able to tell him what is wrong with me...
  14. What did he or she tell you? Did you get along with each other? Will you return to him?

    The complicating factor in your session is being traumatized by being robbed and having your dad and your Indian friend meddle with your life.
  15. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    I'll visit him again next Friday. Didn't talk about much, just got reaquianted. Didn't visit him since November. He's a nice guy, a good father figure.
  16. nicesinging1

    nicesinging1 Well-Known Member

    Hi, Rahul. It is me, Hank. Sorry to hear that you have not been feeling well. I think it is good that you are finally getting professional help from psychologist. I believe you will get a lot of supports if you open up to him and ask for support on ur concerns.
    I have been through individual therapy for about 6 months and group therapy for about 2 months and they really helped me a lot. It really feels better to open up to someone about areas that you are concerned with. For individual therapy, it is one on one, so you don't need to be shy or nervous. Confidentiality is guaranteed and the psychologist is just there to support u, not criticize u.
    As for school, you are not a loser. I am the loser. At least you are going to university. I am on the leave of absence. I strongly encourage u to get involved. Join clubs/organizations, not crazy fraternity. Study in groups. That will help ur GPA. :smile: And last but not leat, don't be too pressured by what people ask from u. Know your limit. Do your best. That way, u should feel better about ur life and urself.
    I wish you the best in ur future academic endeavor.

    Warm Regards,

  17. Rahul

    Like the previous poster get involved in a school activity. Join an Indian cultural group. You may find a cute little Desi!

    How is school going for you, now?

    Apka Dost
  18. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    I'm starting school this Monday.
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