Greetings from the Caribbean

Discussion in 'Welcome' started by inkdrop, Aug 9, 2013.

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  1. inkdrop

    inkdrop New Member

    First off... there are days when I'm very expressive and full of words, but then there are days I wish I never had to communicate with the world... I can be comical and full of laughs sometimes and very sarcastic. :blah::blah::blah:

    I'm new... go figure :/

    I hail from the small Twin island republic of Trinidad & Tobago, years ago when I first attempted to join an online support community they were in total disbelief that a person who lives in the Caribbean could suffer with depression.

    Depression, anxiety the works are found in all parts of the planet we named Earth. I'll admit that it's really hard living in the Caribbean and struggling with depression, most people don't understand and think we can just 'snap out' of it. It's harder if you self harm, we have no winter and it's often very hot so hiding fresh scars are sometimes quite the task.

    Here's a little background info on myself so I don't seem like a total stranger and maybe provide some insight as to why I'm so messed up in the head;

    I've been suffering with depression/depressive episodes since I was 11, started self harming when I was 13 and have been struggling to stop ever since. Did that whole 'first love' bit with a long relationship with a girl who I really should not have been with, she really wore me out and killed what little self confidence I had at that time. Shortly after I turned 17, I was raped (a term I'm only now beginning to be able to use/tolerate), after that I was forced to 'come out' to my parents who weren't very accepting and are currently living in the state of denial. At 18 I had my first major suicide attempt via the <Mod Edit, WildCherry: Methods>, spent some time in the hospital and was then diagnosed with Bipolar 2.

    A few months later, I moved to Barbados to get my degree decided heyyy it's college everyone has to have a college fling :moody: and decided to hook up with a guy for what reason... I'm yet to know... the sex wasn't even good :mmph: there was a night that this guy decided not to take no for an answer and forced himself onto me. Couple weeks later I had the unpleasant surprise of a miscarriage, not even knowing I was baking.
    About a year or so later I found myself trying to please my parents by attempting to be in a relationship with a guy who turned out to be the spawn of satan and was abusive emotionally,verbally and to a lesser extent physically that didn't last long thankfully.

    Added to the generic distance between myself and career minded, self absorbed parents who don't take the time to try to understand :blah::blah:
    And the occasional phase of eating disorders.

    Nothing else of any real substance has happened over the last couple years but here I am, 21 years; very active within my school and my community at home and ever so depressed with the feeling of having no one on my side, feeling used, empty, worthless and just so sad. With the feeling... you know the feeling when the same thought cycle through your mind over and over again making everything worse, the anxiety that hits you when all your muscles feel tense at the same time, and you know you're breathing cause you're clearly alive but yet you feel like there isn't enough oxygen.

    And that last line is the reason I'm here.
  2. flowers

    flowers Senior Member

    Hi Inkdrop. Welcome to sf. Glad you found this community. I think its a really good one. I am sorry that there are not people in your community who also suffer as you do with depression and si. My guess is that there are a few here and there. But you all have to hide it. So its like having no support for it. Thats really isolating.

    I am very sorry to read about the rape. Adding deep injury to everything else. one thing that I wonder about, and its just a thought, is this. Would it be possible for you to talk with a school counseller about it? Just the rape part? If it wouldnt I understand. But the thought came to mind.

    I posted a very good video on sf. Its a young guy ( young by my standards, lol) talking about how isolating etc it is to live with depression in this society. I think you might relate to it. I am not going to post the link here. Because it does belong in another area of the forum. But I can tell you where to find it. I think you will like it. Its in the "links and resources" area of sf. and just click on links and resources, if you would like to see it.
    I currently see it on page 2 The thread is titled "Eloquent TED video of young man speaking about stigma of depression"

    SF is a place where you can come and just talk about what you are really feeling. Its a good community. i come from the US. And lots of us here are out of wack. So we have to hide it less. But even so, many, including myself feel great shame. Because mental illness is very demeaned in the US also. Even though it is quite common. Again, I am very glad you found this community. I hope it helps you to feel less alone and isolated :hug:
  3. lightbeam

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  4. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    Just want to say hi and to let you know i do understand that feeling of not having enough oxygen I am glad you are reaching out here
  5. emily83

    emily83 Well-Known Member


    it is nice to meet you..... welcome to the forum
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