Guilt.

Discussion in 'Rape and Abuse' started by The_Discarded, Oct 8, 2006.

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  1. The_Discarded

    The_Discarded Staff Alumni

    All I did was exist. But I feel so guilty.

    And the death-inducing video plays itself over, and over, and over again.

    So why did he have to rape me that night? Why did he have to tell me we'd be going to have some fun?

    He was dating my mother, and I was just twelve.

    Even now, I have limited trust in my boyfriend because of this.

    I love him, he loves me, I'm certain. He claims to understand. I'm sure he does. He was raped too. Why is that I can't handle it and he can?

    I was so vulnerable that night. Yelled at, beaten, raped, hurt.

    Hurt. The physical pain is nothing in comparison.

    I'd just like to be able to hug my perfect, absolute, lovely boyfriend without feeling so uneasy. Without seeing that man everywhere I go. My boyfriend doesn't deserve any of this. The fact that he's patient enough to stay with me shows his sheer perfection. And I'm so far from worth it.

    But, for Christ's sake, all I did was exist.

    It never ends, does it?
     
  2. Sa Palomera

    Sa Palomera Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry to hear this Discarded. And I wish there was something I could do for you.

    I'm afraid there is quite a chance that it indeed will never end. but it might help you to deal with it if you talk with your boyfriend about it. Do you talk about it with him?

    if you ever need a talk, you can always pm me. I'm here for you.

    xxx
    Ester
     
  3. The_Discarded

    The_Discarded Staff Alumni

    Thank you, a lot.

    I've talked about it somewhat with him. Some days it's better for myself, him as well. Yet some days it's harder to deal with.

    But I'm surving, albeit reluctantly.

    Thanks again.
     
  4. stay strong & invincible!
     
  5. NoMotiv

    NoMotiv Active Member

    There is no reason to feel guilty, no reason whatsoever. And your boyfriend is patient and loving because you do deserve it. Youre a good person, you didnt do anything wrong. Dont let the guilt consume you, that bastard that raped you isnt worth it.

    Unfortunately bad things happen to good people. But dont let it destroy you, good things will also happen to you and you deserve all good things that come on your path.
     
  6. allofme

    allofme Staff Alumni

    well said nomotiv


    you DO deserve good things and good ppl in your life.. you know that is true... all I did was exist.

    this statement shows you know all you did was be there and that is not anything to have guilt over....

    you and your bf will do welll if you get some therapy... and since you both were violated you both know it is not your fault...

    hugs and hopes
     
  7. tishany

    tishany Member

    I know how you feel...I don't know how to be with men either...without any fear...It takes time I guess. One step at a time. I can barely hug my female friends, it makes me feel too vulnerable and I've become so closed off from the world I can't imagine even having a boyfriend but it gives me hope because I see you have at least made that step. Stay strong.

    Many Blessings.

    T.
     
  8. The_Discarded

    The_Discarded Staff Alumni

    Thanks so much, everyone.

    :hug:
     
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