Has anybody had a partner change their mind about a relationship once they find out you have some sort of mental illness or depression or ED or whatever?? I think I always try to act normal, but when I start having problems with a guy, he suddenly changes his mind. It seems that men are not very forgiving when it comes to this. They want somebody who can be a perfect partner and a perfect mother and a girl with some sort of mental illness just can not be that. Recently, I was hospitalized due to fainting from throwing up and the dehydration that came along with the throwing up. I opened up to this guy and told him what happened and that I have suffered from bulimia for a long time. He already suspected I had depression and was making comments to me every time we would fight, he would make comments that I need to go see a doctor rather than constantly bothering him. Keep in mind that our fights were due to me suspecting that he was lying and him not keeping promises. Can anybody suggest how I should deal with this? Is there any way for him to think I am less crazy??? It is obvious that he feels disrespected by me due my my stupid text messages and other craziness when things don't go right, but this was not really my intention. I just don't like the lying and the making promises and I have major abandonment issues already. Plus, I rather have the truth instead of him lying to satisfy me. All the same, I recently discovered that he has been involved in something very disgusting. I was not going to say what this was, but here goes. Basically, I found out he has been having an affair with an older woman for money. Please keep in mind, that I haven't confronted him about this woman and I do not intend to because I don't need him to think I am even crazier by him finding out that I was being nosy online because that is how I discovered this. Anyway, When I say this woman is older, I mean about 60. He is 25. Most people would tell me to let him go after finding this out, but I still like him regardless because I believe that when you truly want to be with a person it should be unconditional, so why can't he feel the same for me??? Why are guys like this?? Girls can love unconditionally, but men want you to be an angel? Also, I realize not all guys are like this so please don't get mad at me for talking about my experiences. I also noticed that my cousin who has mental illness went through similar issues with her ex-husband. She loved him unconditionally, but when the going got tough due to her problems, he let her go. He is now remarried to a "nice" girl.