I think I just want to know that other people have been in my shoes and what they've done to get through it. A month ago my wife told me that she needed some space. A week later she took our one child, a toddler, with her and went away. She's been gone 3 weeks now, with no indication of when she'll return. I have no other family -- my parents, my sister, they're all gone. My uncles and aunts are estranged. I have no close friends that I can talk to. After we moved to the city we currently live in I didn't make any work friends or anything like that because I had a long commute and I was trying to spend a lot of time with my wife so she wouldn't feel isolated. She works from home and has a hard time making friends, too. I did my best to support her. It seems that it wasn't enough. The hurt from being abandoned by someone that you love so deeply is bad enough. The hurt from being separated from your child is bad enough. But I was raised to believe that family is everything. If my wife goes, then I have no family anymore. My meaning is to take care of my family, so if they go, I have no meaning anymore. I'd have failed as a husband, failed as a father, failed as a son. Without a family to care for, what point is there? I should just transfer all of my assets to her and let go. That would make it easier for both of us. But not easier for my son. My son needs a father. But he also needs parents that love each other, so it is really so much better this way? Maybe it is better to just get out of the way, so his mother can find a way to be happy, and then he can have two loving parents again. Assuming he ever had any. It would not be fair to me. But once I am gone, I won't care about that. I try to talk to my wife. I want desperately to reconcile. I keep thinking that we're on the right track but then things go sour again. At this point, if I am honest with myself, I believe that she no longer loves me and doesn't really want to return. I try to convince myself otherwise, but there is a hollow feeling that I can't ignore without some kind of distraction that is painful enough to drown out the feeling that comes from inside. My wife knows how I feel about family, but she left anyway. I've told her again on the phone, but she still hasn't given me any indication when she'll come back, if ever. She is not giving me any sense of hope to work with. If she did that, I think I could keep it together, but she just isn't. I don't know anyone who has experience with anything like this kind of situation, even if I could talk to them about it. My therapist has been trying to help, but I think she also is out of her depth. Talking to her gets me through a few days but then the emptiness of my house recalls the emptiness in my heart, and it all comes creeping back. Maybe someone else here knows what it is like and can give me some perspective.