I don't doubt even a little bit that you love your children with all your heart. That you can give everything, sacrifice everything you have for their happiness.
However, if your child, when he/she grow up, becomes perpetually devastated to the point that he/she commits suicide, do you still believe that bringing this child into the world is a beautiful thing or the most precious gift for this child?
The ends dont define the life. That's the problem when you feel suicidal, everything cumulates into a destructive force and blankets the best times and connections out. You're end result question on bringing a life into this existence is like.. fuck me. Fuck the good parts, Its all about THE BAD PARTS. Better not cross the road too while youre at it? ..
Your love isn't the only thing that contributes to his/her happiness.
Yes... it's called life and experiences.
People, places, things.. how we chose to live our lives, how we endure and how we progress and express. And la deda da.
No one can predict the future of a child, then why do we have to take a risk? What is the real reason?
Wtf? if you wanted to predict the future for any life form youve lost the plot seriously. How is that living? You educate and love and care for your child. Help them understand a percieved ideal of balance and respect for life, aswell as letting them be who they are and have the opportunity to grow without being dictated to or crushed by someone elses definition of life. Help them to be strong and curious about life.
I think it is pure selfishness plus ignorance. You want to be happy BY having a child. You are blinded to the possibility of someone living a miserable life because your desire to experience happiness is so strong.
EH? omg what the hell is wrong with people? Obviously you dont want a child. Fair enough.. you dont understand.. it's not souly for you, it's about having a life that's new and giving it the best that you can, and watching it grow and
live its own life. Knowing youll always be there for it and there to someday walk beside it. It's not perfect, but jesus christ... Who the heck wants a child for themself souly? I'd tell them to get a puppy.. actually no, id tell them to get a friend. Children arent a means to an end of self importance and happyness. It's a life, a continuation and a liberation into this life. And life can and is SHIT, but life is also Beautiful and fun, and loving.
Excuse me mate but you are blinded BY the possibility of someone living a miserable life because .... ''insert your own personal issue with life here''. Just reverse logic you're subjecting other people to. It's like..common. You're picking a negative side to it. Lifes what you make of it. Lifes not always miserable, lifes not always happy. It's life, and we make do as best as we can. With children? You can make their life better and share the best bits with them, and your own personal understandings of the worst bits so you can help them deal with it easier. I wouldnt take an experience of pain away from a child in concept{depends what it is}, but i'd always be there to help them through it and to see the best parts of life. Get knocked down, get up. blah blah blah blah
This anti children crap isn't about children. It's about people who are pissed off at their own lives and are projecting their distorted negative views onto the procreation and progression of life. Yeah... you[anyone in general] might have had a bad childhood. Honestly, im extremely sorry to hear that if that's the case. But that doesnt make you bad or wanting a child bad. Or more importantly Life bad. Life isn't souly bad. And wanting to bring an existence into life isnt bad.
Well it's bad if you cant support yourself or a future life properly. That's the ignorance and failing. From the individual, not from life.
Blah... Ihate projective negative thinking onto other people, and future people. Worry about yourselves... that's kinda where it's at in my opinon.
ps this stupid notion that having a child will bring you close to an understanding of what life is all about is rediculous. It 's an aspect of life. Children can by association and proximity to you re-ignite your own flare and spark for life on a more humble and innocent level sure. But you dont have children for that. That's selfish. That's destructive. In anycase.. topics like this to me are subtle back doors to asking whats the point in life, whats the meaning in it. Fuck the children just ask that shit for yourself instead of using children as a proxy face for your own fears and questions on life.