Head Games

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by HexenBexen, Oct 26, 2008.

  1. HexenBexen

    HexenBexen Well-Known Member

    I'm going to try not ramble on and on with this one...

    I met a guy about 2 months ago. We hit it off, had the most amazing conversations and learned that we have almost everything in common. We hung out quite a bit and I thought things were going well. However, it seems he constantly enjoys playing a game of 'push and pull' with me. It's difficult for me to open up and be vulnerable to people. I suspect the same in him. Yet, he reaches out, makes an effort to be closer and as soon as I respond and do the same, he pulls back again. On top of that, he does things like say he's going to call but doesn't. I hate that! All I want is to find the one I can take care of and let take care of me. A partner in crime, someone I can count on. This whole thing is so disappointing and I don't know why people do this. I'm starting to wonder if it's something I'm doing because it seems everyone who displays any kind of interest in me ends up doing the same things. I'm sick of being lonely. It seems like so many people I've known come together so easily and naturally. I'm happy for them but getting jealous at the same time.

    Anyway, I'm sure I'm not alone in this. It's just really sad and gets harder and harder to pick up the pieces.
  2. Jenny

    Jenny Staff Alumni


    Sorry to hear of your difficulties with your partner.. it sounds difficult for you both and I can certainly relate. You say it's difficult for you to let yourself get close to someone out of fear of being hurt when you're feeling close and vulnerable.. and this seems to be what happens in your relationships including your current one. Have you spoken to him about this? I wonder whether talking about what's going on in the here and now could help you both come to some understanding of eachothers needs.

    Take care
    Jenny x
  3. HexenBexen

    HexenBexen Well-Known Member

    No, I haven't spoken to him about it, out of fear that I may scare him off....oh lord, the whole thing sounds so ridiculous when I type it out in black & white. I've sort of regressed right now, I figure if he thinks I'm worth it, he'll make more of an effort. I don't like chasing people and that's how I'm starting to feel in this situation. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I'm sure I should probably work on myself before trying to get involved with anyone else.