Well, I guess that this is sort of a coming-out post. I'll keep it short here, since it's just an intro post. Being new here, I'm not sure what to say, or how in depth to get about anything (though I've read the FAQ, so I know generally what not to say). I am 39, male, married (my 2nd marriage, her 3rd), a nerd (which to me is a badge of honor), have practiced several martial arts, have a good career, etc.. I'm here because although I know that I won't hurt myself or worse, I'm also tired of the pain and emotional turbulence in my life. Really, really tired. I'm certain that I'm not about to do anything extreme, but I know that I'm not about to fix the problems (as I perceive them) either... and I'm just so f*****g tired of trying to cope and balance and juggle. For now, I'll just say that a therapist thought (or seemed to think) that I'm a codependent (approx.: doormat-like, which is true of me, as far as I've read), I have some marital problems about which I feel pretty horribly in pain, and that I recognize that they are probably stem from a mix causing them myself, permitting them, and so forth. Thanks.