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Just_visiting

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Hi guys
I am really sorry to bother everyone when i am sure there r people that need more help and support than me. I am just really struggling at the moment and need someone to talk to.

I dont no if i am posting this in the right place but i couldnt find the forum it would fit in. Basically i am really struggling because my life has turned upside down and i cant keep in control of everything. I dont no how to explain properly because it feel so big in my head but i'l try. I am sorry if its a bit muddled.

Basically i am strugglin cos i am 3 and a half months pregnant, young (ish) and single and i just dont know what to do. I didnt intend to get pregnant and now there seems no where to turn. I do not want to be a mum but i dont see any options. I cant have an abortion because it is to late and so that leaves either adoption or keeping it. If i were puttin it up for adoption then my mum would take it (here social services always try to place a baby with family if possible) and because i am so close to my mum (and still live at home) that wud just b like keeping it, so what is left? I feel so trapped and just cant cope with it all.

I mean i already had problems before this. Having suffered from depression and SH and other things for a long time and this is just like the final thing thats gonna crush me.

I cant imagine having a baby for the rest of my life. I have barely lived as it is and this baby is gonna make it so hard. Its harder cos of it being the christmas season so ofcourse there r lots of parties and things and everyone around me is gettin drunk and havin fun and i cant really join in. It will b the same wen the baby is born. Nd i dont think i can face givin my life up for a baby just yet.

I feel terible for thinking all this because i know it is not the childs fault. It is mine for gettin pregnant in the first place and i should take responsibility for my actions but i just dont no wat to do.

Nyway thanks for readin this, if u have. It helps to atleast get some of it out.
Take care
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Terry

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12 and half weeks? Not to late to have the pregnancy terminated hun, but you need to get it sorted RIGHT NOW.
 

Terry

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Hun, they can do them up to 16 weeks; it's just not so straight forward...get to the docs and scream for help. :hug: :hug: :hug:
 

Just_visiting

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Thanks for that, i'll look into it but so far everyone i have spoken to has said it is to late. Thanks tho :)

If it is a possibility its still a hard decision u no? as i sed before this is a baby and didnt ask to be put into this mess. Its hard to think about now killing it. I know other people wudnt see it as "killing" but i've had a scan, seen its heart and its face and it moving. Its hard. But probably for the best. I suppose.

Bob thanks for your opinion. I agree in that i think adoption is the best option unfortunately tho it isnt really an option because as i said social services wud just give it to my family. I would see it everyday and that wud b very hard. It wud b bought up as me as its sister...

Nyway thanks
Take care
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