lease: I'm really embarrassed about this, but I'd appreciate any advice about the following. My almost 21 yr old daughter is in the Army. Went in right after high school and just returned from Afghanistan. She has been stinky and nasty since she joined the ARMY :eeek: ... I didn't raise my child to not take a shower!!!! I know it's normal for Basic training and even at her duty station when they go out on training exercises, they will go a few days without a shower. When she is home on leave she lets her beautiful long hair get greasy and gross and doesn't take a shower all weekend unless I MAKE her... wears the same clothes and smells horrible body odor... I have to MAKE her take her clothes off so I can disinfect them in HOT water and lysol and sometime have to wash them 2x's (spraying pits of shirts with lysol). She was in Astan for 8 months and became suicidal so they sent her home a couple of months ago. She is seeing doctors and on meds. It makes me sick and it's disgusting... I've talked to her about it and she ignores me and gets mad... any advice? She recently got married and her husband is still in Astan so she had to get an apt off post. Last year before deployment I helped them move to an apt and helped them fill out the credit papers to buy a washer/dryer and furniture and a bed. They put everything in storage included their car & truck when they deployed. My family & I drove 9 hours to Ft. Hood when she got sent back to the states to help her move her stuff into a new apt. My husband almost puked when he got in her hubby's truck to drive it to the apt... it stunk so bad and had food all over it and dip juice everywhere!!! Her car was worse. I said... hell no... and made her pay to get them detailed... they still stink... can't undo that much nasty. Her brand new furniture was stained and full of dip... never tried to clean it after spilling something. I spent an entire day steam cleaning it but it didn't do any good except help with the smell... when they put their stuff in storage... they took heavy furniture and threw it on top of their brand new matress & boxspring... ruined... so she is sleeping in a fucked up bed with a huge hole in the middle... stupid asses. everything was thrown in the storage units and NOT even put in boxes ... everything was filthy. I'm sick of this shit and told her not to ask for help moving again ... they can do it theirselves or hire someone cuz I don't want to catch an incurable disease! After all this shit.. I'd like to say... God Bless America and all our veterans and military atriot: But that doesn't mean it's ok to be NASTY!