Hey, neat to see resources here to help people dealing with suicidal thoughts. I would like your input on how I can reach my best friend through this time of need. My buddy, 'T', lost his father when he was about 10 years old (10 years ago). His father committed suicide in his basement, I won't go into details because I don't think they allow it here and I want to be respectful to your rules. Anyways, last night T, myself, and two girls that I know (but T doesn't) were hanging out and chatting. one of the girls 'J' was giving some back story on a friend she had that was going through some rough times. She said "yeah, he came from a messed up family, like his dad committed suicide" and at this point my friend T cut in and said "My dad committed suicide too. THANKS FOR THAT." It really killed the atmosphere in the room, and I found out later it really, really upset J. She said things like "I shouldn't have brought it up, I shouldn't have said that". I kept reassuring her that it wasn't her fault, and he was overreacting and acting out of line. My thoughts on what he said revolves around the fact that my friend J had no intention to hurt anyone, she was just stating a fact about someone unrelated. T decided to take something completely irrelevant as an insult to himself, and took offence to it and got angry. Its like someone saying "I like playing catch" and then you get mad at them because your favourite baseball team lost. They had NOTHING to do with that team losing, yet you still get mad at them for just talking about something similar. I waited a day and then went to talk to my friend about this. I approached him gently, and know a lot of the right things to say and not to (I have suicide intervention training, as well as am a volunteer emotional support/etc for Emergency Disaster Response in my city). I asked him how he felt about the situation, and he said he was pissed and wanted an apology from J for bringing up suicide. I said that she didn't do anything wrong. T said that she shouldn't have said that the family was 'messed up' because the dad in her story committed suicide. I said that everyone is affected by suicide, and it can really mess people up inside. T said that she should have said 'the family had problems' and left out the suicide. I said that people can't spend their lives walking on eggshells trying not to offend people by saying simple non-flammable things, and that he can't live in a bubble like that. He continued to get frustrated at me, saying that he can't and won't change. I personally feel he is being very selfish with his actions. It seems he is using his father's death of 10 years ago as a crutch, an attention-getter. He keeps the wound fresh so he can go "look at me, look at me, I can act this way because I'm hurt and damaged, look at me". I feel he needs to grow up and accept the fact that someone mentioning it in a conversation is NOT an excuse to get pissed off. Its unacceptable and childish behaviour. I understand he needs to heal. He needs to START healing. He needs time for that. I TOTALLY understand. What I am disagreeing to is the fact that he is taking it out on random people for mentioning suicide, and thinks he has the right to do so. What are your thoughts? What can I do now? He doesn't have money for a therapist, and he also doesn't think he is in any way in the wrong. Any input would be great. Thanks for reading this.