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Help me, I need to know what you think...

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Confused girlfriend

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It's about my boyfriend, I've always wondered about his past relationship, but I never asked. I didn't dare to and I didn't think it mattered. But two nights ago I asked him... and he told me things that made me... almost disgusted and hurt.

I don't know what I want anymore...
He's my first boyfriend, I don't want to lose him... but I don't know if I want him either....

Does it matter what happened in the past? But it makes me so sad...
 
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I suppose it depends how bad it is. For example, if the thing is something that he might do to you eg rape etc It really depends though whether you can have a relationship if you feel you can no longer respect him!?
 
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It's hard to comment without knowing what he told you, But in time you may
stop caring about whatever it was.

In any case, I hope the situation turns out good for you.
 
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~Nobody~

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Whether or not it truly matters depends on what it is he did. You can tell us :arms: if you want to.

Otherwise, go with your gut. It's rarely wrong :hug:

~Nobody~ x
 
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Confused Girlfriend.

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No... It's nothing horrible like rape. It's just that... they weren't dating when they... did it... the first time. He barley knew her, he looked up her MSN and asked her to come home to him and she said she wanted to have sex. She was only 13 and he 16, and they did it.

Maybe it's cultural differences, but I put value in virginity... I would never do that with someone I barley know. They decided same night that they were boyfriend and girlfriend. This was 2 years ago and she broke up with him a half year ago. We've been dating since late last year and I made clear to him that I wasn't gonna jump in bed with him just like that..

Is he really over her? He told me he was really depressed after that and I always worried that I was some kind of replacement....

Most of you probably doesn't think it's a huge thing... but it is to me.
 
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Confused Girlfriend. said:
No... It's nothing horrible like rape. It's just that... they weren't dating when they... did it... the first time. He barley knew her, he looked up her MSN and asked her to come home to him and she said she wanted to have sex. She was only 13 and he 16, and they did it.
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Is he from the uk? Cos technically that is rape :sad: Did he know she was only 13?
 
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Confused Girlfriend.

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He knew. but he said she wanted to.. and he said he was worried... but.. I don't believe that. He told me once that he used to count every time they "did it".And it was over 100 times the first 100 days they were together. so FUCK THAT. I don't believe shit that he was worried.
 
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