Help me make a decision..please?

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Entity, Dec 10, 2010.

  1. Entity

    Entity Well-Known Member

    I don't know where i want to go for christmas, and my dad says i have two days to make my decision :( I can either go to my mom's parent's house, my dad's parent's house, or my mom's house.
    Mom's parent's (Grandma's house) -
    I promised her last year that i'd go to her house for Christmas Eve
    I told her when this first came to play that i'd spend 5 days with her and 5 days with my other grandparents
    I don't really do anything or go anywhere if i'm there
    it's really boring
    she nags me constantly about my texting or computer usage
    But she guilt trips like crazy and i don't want anyone to get hurt

    Dad's parent's (Pop's house) -
    They are so excited about me going there
    If i go i can see my little cousins for christmas
    I told them the same 5 day plan i told my grandma
    I'd feel terrible for changing plans on them
    I go places and do things with them

    Mom's house -
    I was raped by my step brother
    I hate my mom's partner
    My mom's house scares me half to death
    But my mom and i are getting close again
    My sister lives there and i'm her idol
    It's my mom's year for holiday's according to divorce agreement
    My mom is excited about me going
    she'll guilt trip me to death if i don't go
    I'll feel terrible for letting down my sister

    BUT i only have ten days that my dad is on vacation
    And my mom lives 5 hours from me
    my dad's parent's house is like 15 minutes away
    and my mom's parent's house is 45 minutes away
    So i can't go to all three with a ten day period and they ALL want me for christmas day so the other can't have me :/
    So stressed outttt...
    please help me?
    please? :(
  2. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    You go where you want to go okay it is your time off either way someone will be let down but you will have gone where you will have benefited the most. It is nice they all love you and want you explain to them that you are going where you are going and why and that you cannot be everywhere at one time so you are going where you will have the most fun.
    It is YOUR time so YOU choose okay don't let others guilt trip you into doing something or going somewhere you rather not me. YOUR choice go where you want
  3. Well-Known Member

    Why can't you go to all 3 within the 10 days?
  4. Johnnyc

    Johnnyc Well-Known Member

    Personally I would not go anywhere leave them be they will do fine with out you, enjoy yourself, this is your time off.
    Life is to short to worry of the small things like how to make others happy.
  5. KittyGirl

    KittyGirl Well-Known Member

    The only reason that I'm going to be with my mom for Christmas this year is because I live with her.

    Make your own plans.
    If you live on your own and you're an adult- there's no reason why you have to go to everyone's houses every year for Christmas. That's the price you pay for living far away~ and no one should blame you for it.

    So- do what is comfortable for you.
  6. Entity

    Entity Well-Known Member

    That's the thing though, I'm 16, i can't just stay by myself :(
  7. KittyGirl

    KittyGirl Well-Known Member

    aha~ so you're 16..

    Okay... from the options that you wrote, I would choose to go to my (your) Dad's parent's house - and just tell everyone else that traveling this time of year is too stressful and you will see them another time soon. (even if that is a bit of a lie or not)
    Seems to me that you would have the most fun there - and you could always call everyone else on Christmas day to tell them you love them and you were sorry you couldn't come.
  8. Johnnyc

    Johnnyc Well-Known Member

    16, that changes it all dang nabbit.