Help me!

Discussion in 'Help Me! I Need to Talk to Someone.' started by SugarPoison, Oct 17, 2009.

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  1. SugarPoison

    SugarPoison Member

    Recently, my sister, nephew (5 months old) and her husband have been living with me. I've been towed down with work from college such as essays, revision, studying etc.

    I had thursday and friday off because of teacher training days and I thought this would be a good time to catch up on some much needed sleep, since my day consists of 12 hours every single day (travelling and lessons). Not only have I been threatened by my sister's husband that he will beat me, my sister came into my bedroom earlier and picked up my drawer and smashed it to pieces, ruining my furniture and claimed how if my mother died, it would be my fault. All I have asked is for a bit of peace of quiet in the mornings since they get up at like 8am, stick on all the tv's and march around the house noisily. I now haven't had a decent nights sleep in a week and I'm exhausted.

    I've seeked my mother for help. This has only made things worse. She has favoured my sister as a whole because she is older. She has told me how nobody wants me and how my brothers and sisters despise me. My sister keeps smashing my stuff up as well as threatening to smash my prized possessions. She told me how no one will or does love me because I'm not 'normal'. This wasn't the best thing to tell me, since I just got over someone who never loved me and physically and verbally abused me for 2 years. The torment doesn't seem to end and the only time I'm happy is when I'm with my college friends.

    Every single day, I sit alone in my room, not aloud to be near my family, if I am near my family, they leave me out, torment me saying how no one could ever want me and how ever since I was born, I have ruined everyone's lives. They make me hate myself. What's worse, none of my friends understand, they all live really happy family lives as I go to a really good college in a good area.

    I can't focus on my studies. I just want to be drinking all the time. I keep being threatened by my sister's husband and by my mother and sister that they will beat me, report me to the police for the things my sister has done such as smashing up the drawer. My mother puts me second when my sister is around. What's worse is, I got a week off next week which could mean lie ins, lots of work being done and just relaxing before going into the term where I do exams. This however, cannot be done as my sister is there.

    I really need some advice because I hate myself. I feel ugly, unwanted and unloved. I go to college and I fancy someone who doesn't like me in that way back, then go home and get told that no one will ever want me or love me because I'm a freak.

    Someone help, please?
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  2. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    If the house belongs to u then call the police and have your sister and brotherinlaw removed from your premises. Have them pay for any thing they broke get a security camera and video what has happened as proof to the police. It is your home press charges against sister husband for threatening you get that taped as well. You need to take charge and stop letting these people ruin your life. If all fails sell your place move out and into the dorm at your college away from everyone. Time to tell family members to get out
  3. Chargette

    Chargette Well-Known Member

    They need to leave your home so you can have your life. Your stress is compounded by the long days you have. They may carry on that they will be homeless, but, when they are truly faced with that, they will deal with it. It is their lesson to learn, especially in light of the way they have behaved.

  4. WildCherry

    WildCherry ADMIN

    Is it your house? If it is, they need to go; but if it's not, is there any way you can move out? You don't deserve to be treated that way!
  5. evilperson

    evilperson Well-Known Member

    Your situation actually can have a happy ending. You could also feel a lot better about yourself and show them where the sun don't them a little bit how you're feeling.

    Call the police right now and say that your sister and brother in law are threatening to beat you and smashing up the things in your house and are refusing to leave. Tell the police that you need somebody to come out and escort them off the premises and then show them all the things that they have broken/smashed.

    You'll feel a lot stronger once you do it. Who needs family like that?
  6. SugarPoison

    SugarPoison Member

    Now they have stolen all my food which I need for college this week. I wish I was dead to be honest. If I report them to the police my mum has promised she will blame everything on me and tell the police that I did things to make them smash my stuff up etc and how they will pull me out of the only place I'm happy, college.
  7. LetItGo

    LetItGo Staff Alumni

    Sounds like other than you, the rest of your family need serious psych help. What is wrong these people? Are they abusing drugs or something? I dont understand how a parent could be such a class A bitch.
  8. SugarPoison

    SugarPoison Member

    Things are getting worse. My mum just came home, told me she was going to throw me out and beat me again. She's out until the end of this evening now and I just want to run away from all the pain and harm. I've been threatened again by my sisters husband who promises to beat me and I'm terrified for when he gets back. I can't call the police, what should I do?
  9. KirstyMissJimBob

    KirstyMissJimBob Well-Known Member

    id say run! get out of there and go to someone's house who cares about u .report them to the parent should ever treat thier son or daughter like that. *hugs* i hope it all works out
  10. nelly

    nelly Banned Member

    you are happy in collage, is there anyone there that can mabey put u up until you can get sorted. Your family are breaking the law by treating you like this Please stay strong
  11. Metallica*Melinda

    Metallica*Melinda Well-Known Member

    This is not an ideal situation, to say the least... can I ask why you cant call the police?
    If its because you FEEL like you can't then I suggest going to someones house who you trust and doing it there.... this is extremely WRONG, what they are doing to you. There is no reason to threaten to beat somebody daily or to do it for that matter.
    It must be really hard for you to go through this, but I would like to point out that Im happy you're asking us here at SF for help, because you shouldnt have to deal with this alone...
    I too suffered a lot of abuse, but I was younger when it happend... but like you, it was by my family....
    I can understand the feeling of being hated, but I can assure you that nobody on this earth, including yourself is a worthless human being, nobody. This is hard to believe that you could be worth something when this is how you are treated on a daily basis (it was for me anyway.) But I do want to say that if you can find the will to call the police and get yourself out of that situation, then things WILL start to get better...... they will!
    Now, heres some suggestions, they may or may not help you, because I do not know a lot about your situation, but I will try...
    There are shelters that you can stay at if you dont own this house and feel threatened by your family, I've stayed at one before... they arent too bad, although it is a group living situation, but they will help you get on your feet again, and you can still attend your schooling and whatnot while you are there.... I feel that the shelter helped me a lot in my life, but of course this is your choice...
    Also, getting the police involved, if you own the house you could either call 911 or the local dispatch line, and say that u r being threatened in your own home and would like the occupants removed... because there is ABSOLUTELY NO REASON FOR THEM TO TREAT YOU LIKE THAT NO MATTER IF IT IS YOUR HOME OR NOT!
    But my best suggestion is, if you dont own the home either a shelter or a friends home...
    Please update us on whats going on, and if you would like info on various shelters in your area, you could PM me and I could get the info you need...
    Please take care and remember that you are a person and matter to this world reguardless of how people treat you!
    Love, Melinda :love:
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