As the topic says i'm desperate need of advice regarding a suicidal ex girlfriend. We broke up about a month ago and recently she got in contact with me. She's confessed that she tried to overdose and if it wasn't for her brother finding her she would of died from liver failure, she spent three days in hospital and i never even knew. She's in therapy now; once a week or more and only me and her family knows.
I guess my problem is dealing with this, i haven't spoken to her for the whole month and it feels like i'm letting myself into a whole realm of complications. It's upsetting; but she won't believe i even care and then of course there is the added factor that i'm an ex and it's more than complicated from that perspective.
Heavens knows i want to help her, I've dealt with similar things before with an old friend of mine but she never actually attempted it and though we used to be like best friends, obviously with any ex it's not that simple.
She was beginning to develop eating problems towards the end of our relationship and that is also an element and part of the cause of this i assume. Regardless of the amount i used to try and reassure her, there's no way on earth she'd believe me when i told her how beautiful she is. She's no where close to overweight, she has an optimum BMI, and she knows it. Her family life has been pretty rough and i guess that is a contributory factor, as well as bullying in her earlier school years, I've also experienced this and i understand the impact this can have on someone. I hope this is a wake up call for her family and a realization that those dormant feelings she had within her are real.
I'm torn between logic and emotion and i don't know what to do, we was together for almost a year and of course; i still have feelings for her. Logically i know i'm going to get dragged in by my emotions and end up in a complicated mess of feelings and that may not be the best thing for either of us.
I Don't think her family really understand, they've never spent the countless hours i have talking to her and i don't want her to be alone with these feelings for fear she might actually end her own life. She's only 17 and i want her to see that though the world is cruel, it as cruel as it is beautiful.
Any opinions, advice, help or anything right now would be very much welcome.
I guess my problem is dealing with this, i haven't spoken to her for the whole month and it feels like i'm letting myself into a whole realm of complications. It's upsetting; but she won't believe i even care and then of course there is the added factor that i'm an ex and it's more than complicated from that perspective.
Heavens knows i want to help her, I've dealt with similar things before with an old friend of mine but she never actually attempted it and though we used to be like best friends, obviously with any ex it's not that simple.
She was beginning to develop eating problems towards the end of our relationship and that is also an element and part of the cause of this i assume. Regardless of the amount i used to try and reassure her, there's no way on earth she'd believe me when i told her how beautiful she is. She's no where close to overweight, she has an optimum BMI, and she knows it. Her family life has been pretty rough and i guess that is a contributory factor, as well as bullying in her earlier school years, I've also experienced this and i understand the impact this can have on someone. I hope this is a wake up call for her family and a realization that those dormant feelings she had within her are real.
I'm torn between logic and emotion and i don't know what to do, we was together for almost a year and of course; i still have feelings for her. Logically i know i'm going to get dragged in by my emotions and end up in a complicated mess of feelings and that may not be the best thing for either of us.
I Don't think her family really understand, they've never spent the countless hours i have talking to her and i don't want her to be alone with these feelings for fear she might actually end her own life. She's only 17 and i want her to see that though the world is cruel, it as cruel as it is beautiful.
Any opinions, advice, help or anything right now would be very much welcome.