Help with suicidal loved one - crisis Someone, anyone, please hear me out. This load is getting too hard to hold on my own. I just have to let it out. My (now ex) boyfriend is very serious about harming himself in a few weeks. He broke up with me about 2 weeks ago, and I sense from what he has told me that he did so because he began plotting his suicide and wanted to distance himself so that the shock wouldn't be "as bad" on me. About a week ago, he began confiding in me his plans to kill himself after his mother's birthday. The amount of detail he has placed into his plot is so frightening; he has worked everything out to a tee, and I have never encountered anyone as on-the-brink as he is. Yesterday, about a week after spelling out his plans, he invited me over and apologized greatly for hurting me and breaking up with me, and said that it's needed. Despite this, he professed how much he loved me, held me and cried, and kissed me as if to never see me again. I asked him about his plans very frankly, and he remained quiet so as to not ruin the moment he seemed to be trying to savor. What caused me to not break out in total panic was his making reference to a future for him, such as saying that it will be a long time before he considers dating again and finding a partner. He also told me I know where to find him if I need a friend, that he'll always be here for me. These contradictory messages left me utterly confused. Today: Though we loosely talk-- he refuses to speak often-- he contacted me tonight, telling me that he feels sad, that he's sick of feeling sad, and that his plot is still on. He had even more details spelled out, and tried to talk me into promising not to tell anybody. I told him I couldn't guarantee that. The problem is, I don't know exactly when he is plotting this for (he only says "in a few weeks") so I don't know what is appropriate to do right now. I know forcing him into a mental hospital for a hold would infuriate him to the point that he would likely want to harm himself further. He absolutely loathes and despises the mental health industry, and to be forced to be shut in a hospital would cause his desire to kill himself to become tenfold. That is why I am trying to seek other options before I go on to the last resort-- one that I know I would have to make despite how negatively affected by it he would become. And now, he texted me and asked me if I would make sure he would be up early tomorrow -- something he had never asked me to do even when we were together. I told him yes, but asked him why, and he evaded the question. I probed once more and asked him if he needed to be up for school, and once again he evaded it. Please help me, anybody. What should I do in the meantime? What do you think this all means?