Hi, new member.

[fromzeroto]

Hi everyone, “fromzeroto” here.

I’m going through a . . . complicated time at the moment. Came across these forums while looking for something else (I think judging from the title of this website we know where my train of thoughts was riding) and I thought I’d sign up, what the hell.

 

[1Lefty]

hello @fromzeroto

Welcome !
As you've probably noticed, we're a group of peers supporting each other in staying alive
We care, and don't judge
This is a safe place to be yourself, and talk as much or as little as you like
I hope you'll find ways to live

peace

 

[fromzeroto]

@1Lefty thank you!

 

[Holding my breath]

Hi @fromzeroto Welcome to SF, what’s brought you here today? You say it’s a complicated time, do you feel able to share more? Xx

 

[fromzeroto]

Hi @Holding my breath, thank you for the welcome.

It’s a little difficult, I apologise. I might have to pen an essay for the “My Story” section at some point, but basically a lot of guilt and shame over the way I’ve lived much of my life. I’m trying to become a better man, but there’s a considerable weight of regret concerning much of my past. I was very low earlier but happened across this website . . . and here we are!

 

[MisterBGone]

Hi @Holding my breath, thank you for the welcome.

It’s a little difficult, I apologise. I might have to pen an essay for the “My Story” section at some point, but basically a lot of guilt and shame over the way I’ve lived much of my life. I’m trying to become a better man, but there’s a considerable weight of regret concerning much of my past. I was very low earlier but happened across this website . . . and here we are!

Hello, @fromzeroto - All you can (really) do, is to acknowledge that mistakes were made in the past--which it seems you have--try to rectify those which can be corrected; & then from there you've just got to do your best to "learn from them." And then move on! Do what you can to be better in the future. If that means going the little extra mile in some places where you can, then by all means please do so, if you feel fit enough to help or contribute in any way or matter of sense. I hope I am making sense, as I have all of a sudden lost all train of thought, and lost nearly every-thing suddenly: and in this moment! Such is (my) life (anyway). . .
Sincerely,
Mr. B~

 

[fromzeroto]

Hi @MisterBGone, thank you for your reply. That’s the plan, I’ve got a lot of self improvement and acceptance, as well as amends and corrections to work on.

Yes, your reply totally made sense. It’s what I’ve been thinking for a while now!

 

[MisterBGone]

Hi @MisterBGone, thank you for your reply. That’s the plan, I’ve got a lot of self improvement and acceptance, as well as amends and corrections to work on.

Yes, your reply totally made sense. It’s what I’ve been thinking for a while now!

Good for you, @fromzeroto ! Keep up the good work and full speed ahead--> I'm proud of you & happy to hear that...

 

[MisterBGone]

And sometimes, too, things like therapy can help with that! Just in case you weren't already aware, or were uncertain for some or any (other) reason. . . : )

 

[Aurelia]

I think you'll really like this community. Everyone here cares about you and we're glad to have you with us instead of searching for what you were originally searching for. It sounds like you may need to forgive yourself for your past. You mentioned you have to make amends to other people, which is also a good thing, but I think before you do that, forgiving yourself should be the first step you take to subside the guilt and shame you mentioned. None of us are perfect. We've all made many mistakes in life. No one is exempt from that. We have to accept this and try to move on as best we can, hoping to become better people in the future and learn from our mistakes.

 

[fromzeroto]

Thank you both, @MisterBGone and @Aurelia, for the responses and advice. So much. I’m already glad I stumbled upon this forum. I’ve got a lot of work to do, but I hope things will improve, all round, and it will be worth it in the end.

 

[Holding my breath]

Hi @Holding my breath, thank you for the welcome.

It’s a little difficult, I apologise. I might have to pen an essay for the “My Story” section at some point, but basically a lot of guilt and shame over the way I’ve lived much of my life. I’m trying to become a better man, but there’s a considerable weight of regret concerning much of my past. I was very low earlier but happened across this website . . . and here we are!

It sounds like you are trying really hard to turn things around, for that you should be really proud of yourself. It can be all too easy to focus on the past and allow the guilt to take hold, but it is so much better to look forward and make your days ahead count. It sounds to me like you’ve already started to turn things around. Keep talking and sharing, we’d love to hear how you get on and what you’re doing. Xx

 

[fromzeroto]

@Holding my breath I really appreciate it. I’ve already decided I’m going to stick around on these forums. I wish I’d found them sooner!

 

[Holding my breath]

Great to hear, SF is a really lovely community. Pleased you found us. Xx

 

[YoungMister]

Greeting fromzeroto.

 

[may71]

Hello and welcome to SF!

I might have to pen an essay for the “My Story” section at some point

I hope you will if you feel ready to.

 

[may71]

I’ve got a lot of self improvement and acceptance, as well as amends and corrections to work on.

The worse a thing you've done, the more powerful the healing you can create when you make a sincere effort to admit what you've done and make amends. I wish you great success in that.

 

[fromzeroto]

@YoungMister and @may71, thank you both!

 

[KM76710]

@Holding my breath I really appreciate it. I’ve already decided I’m going to stick around on these forums. I wish I’d found them sooner!

I am glad that you did find the forum and will be sticking around because you are welcome and have a place here with us as you can notice with the members. This is a fine site to explore and learn the sections, so just start checking around and jumping in.

 

[Innocent Forever]

Welcome to SF! I'm glad you stumbled across this place.
Who you want to be becomes who you are.
Sending love, light, and sparkles ✨️