Hi
Um not sure where to start really or what to say other than the obvious...that I am at the lowest of all lows and obviously thinking very bad thoughts to be here but I daren't say much I am not sure what is allowed or appropriate at this stage and the last thing I ever want is to upset people.
Well I am a very nice person despite all the pooh of my life I am a 26yr old girl and try to be a good human being. I can't really think straight right now so I am very sorry if none of this makes sense you would think it should as I have an English Degree it was only a 2.2 though I nearly didn't even get that thanks to all my problems, but I don't know I can not think properly for the crying and the pain and the ringing in my ears.
I hate being whiny and wallowing in self pity but I guess I am a negative pessimistic person because of my problems so I am probably the kind of person I hate most haha how ironic.
Anyway an overview of my life for anyone interested...
*Domestic Violence as I was growing up which lead to the death of my dad when I was 16yrs and he did it himself I am sad to say. (More irony) I have a great mum though, best you could ask for considering what I've put her through. I have an older brother who is cruel and saracastic and abit like my dad, I don't have a good r.ship with him but I have a youger bro who is 18 now and who I love to bits and he is awesome. My childhood was half traumatic and half happy but I won't go into the utter nastiness of the first half.
*I got acne on my face and back at 13 which got completely and utterly severe and out of control after at 16yrs old. I was left scarred and I wanted to end things many times over as I never saw a pretty girl only ugly acne and scars...just awful I could never look in a mirror. I had other body issues too, I have ednos (that's an ed with a bit of everything thrown in I guess) and I always hated my body for all the freckles, moles, paleness, veins, stretch marks etc the usual stuff but I got by everyday by focusing on my good points. I had work done on my scars and acne and there was hope of improvements and I was pretty and I could still put a dress on and get a bit of a tan on holidays and I enjoyed shopping and doing yoga pain-free so I had some good things left in life. Hmm miss those days.
*My scars got worse and I was suicidal again so I joined an acne site to get info and that is where I met my now fiance of 5years, he too had acne and scars but only on his back. He is my soulmate and I love him and he saved my life at that fragile time. I had more work on my scars, we lived together at my mums or his for a couple years and struggled to find jobs it was hard and embarrassing at 22/23 but life was still hopeful...things looked okay for the future, I was still down and dealing with my past and my body and face issues but there were saving graces to cling to.
* 3 years my acne got severe again. I was distraught. Mom had paid 6k for my procedures to fix scars. I desperately needed to get a job and I needed confidence for that. I didn't want to lose my fiance cos iof my depression. So I took a drug I had refused 3 TIMES in life because of the side effects. But I was DESPERATE. The drug is accutane. My life has never been the same since.....
....my side effects have never left and in fact got worse and continue to get worse and they will do until I die which will probably be from an early stroke or heart attack thanks to the drug that's if I make it that long.
I have gone from a healthy girl to a broken shell of my former self.
Some of my problems are a direct result of the drug, others are just a result of the damage it has done to every tissue in my body and also a few other dumb things I did like sleeping pills for 5 years straight, getting sunburned on the drug and taking ephedra and overexercising my body to lose weight and taking wellbutrin antidepressant (this worsened my ear ringing, stress has increased it and 3 years later it is now v.loud and ANNOYING)
In short:-
*I am now DEATHLY white my skin has shed and been burned off, I am now allergic to sunshine, even ten minutes brings me out in a rash. No more sun and no more holidays for me.
*If I am not white I am purple or bright red on my arms, hands, legs and feet due to accutane flushing and also vascular insuffuciency. Very ugly and embarrassing. Tipping my hands to my side makes them even redder and purple.
*I have serious varicose veins now and thread veins on my feet, legs, lower back. They are appearing on my stomach and shoulders and boobs now.
*I have super dry thin papery wrinkly skin like an old person that damages easily and I still have extremely impaired wound healing so not only is that ugly on a 26yr old girl but dangerous I have to be careful of any accidents.
*I have extreme pain in all my joints, I have poor digestion and IBS issues and trapped nerves in my back and shoulders, pain in my neck.
* I got endometriosis 2 years ago and had surgery which I never healed from properly, that is painful condition in itself. A lot of people got this after accutane as the drug affects blood, tissue everything but I guess I have no proof it was that. Coincidence though for thousands of us isn't it.
* I have bad tinnitus which in itself makes me want to leave the world as you NEVER get peace and quiet even with noise around you. I can't go to nightclubs or cinema now.
* Oh yeah and I still get acne, have crappy skin and scarring. HA!
There's more but that's the worst I guess. I am physically digusting now and broken on the inside and outside and have done everything I can to help my probelms but I know most are permanent and it is a case of living with them. I guess I feel I can't anymore. I went on the sick from my job over a week ago and know that I cannot go back to that room with that perfect girl or I will really go over the edge. I am pushing my fiance away and I know even he wishes this stuff wasn't happening to my body. He is handsome and he could get a nice normal girl with normal body issues not severe like mine. I try not to burden him but I can't stop crying til I'm sick or pass out.
I am dreading summer and heat so bad as I itch and swell and throb all over my body I want to GET OUT of this skin but I am TRAPPED. I can not go out in the sun and have to cover up my feet my legs my arms, can't cover my hands up in summer I have no idea what to wear again to stop being stared at and commented on like a freak.
Bearing in my mind I used to be a 'normalish' girl as in I had depression and low self esteem but I managed to find things to cling on to in life. Like sitting in the sun, shopping for dresses and shoes, going out dancing or see a movie, having a pamper session (I have to shower or bathe at night in the dark or with a candle to avoid seeing my body now it is so revolting for me to look at and I can not use most soaps, shower gels products etc even water can bring me out in a red rash ffs)
I only exist and continue to breathe only for my mum, little brother and fiance though he will leave me eventually if I carry on this way. Every single second is torment. I regret what I have done to myself. I think of memories fromt he past and it haunts me.
I saw a psychologist and am seeing a cognitive behaviour therapist in a couple of weeks. But nothing will take this pain away or make me accept my body inside and out and what I have done. I feel at the end of my coping limit.
Oh god I'm so sorry this is so long and it was supposed to brief if anyone reads it thank you so much, I don't deserve to be read or have your help after all this moaning.
Ack sorry it is so ridiculously stupidly long
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Um not sure where to start really or what to say other than the obvious...that I am at the lowest of all lows and obviously thinking very bad thoughts to be here but I daren't say much I am not sure what is allowed or appropriate at this stage and the last thing I ever want is to upset people.
Well I am a very nice person despite all the pooh of my life I am a 26yr old girl and try to be a good human being. I can't really think straight right now so I am very sorry if none of this makes sense you would think it should as I have an English Degree it was only a 2.2 though I nearly didn't even get that thanks to all my problems, but I don't know I can not think properly for the crying and the pain and the ringing in my ears.
I hate being whiny and wallowing in self pity but I guess I am a negative pessimistic person because of my problems so I am probably the kind of person I hate most haha how ironic.
Anyway an overview of my life for anyone interested...
*Domestic Violence as I was growing up which lead to the death of my dad when I was 16yrs and he did it himself I am sad to say. (More irony) I have a great mum though, best you could ask for considering what I've put her through. I have an older brother who is cruel and saracastic and abit like my dad, I don't have a good r.ship with him but I have a youger bro who is 18 now and who I love to bits and he is awesome. My childhood was half traumatic and half happy but I won't go into the utter nastiness of the first half.
*I got acne on my face and back at 13 which got completely and utterly severe and out of control after at 16yrs old. I was left scarred and I wanted to end things many times over as I never saw a pretty girl only ugly acne and scars...just awful I could never look in a mirror. I had other body issues too, I have ednos (that's an ed with a bit of everything thrown in I guess) and I always hated my body for all the freckles, moles, paleness, veins, stretch marks etc the usual stuff but I got by everyday by focusing on my good points. I had work done on my scars and acne and there was hope of improvements and I was pretty and I could still put a dress on and get a bit of a tan on holidays and I enjoyed shopping and doing yoga pain-free so I had some good things left in life. Hmm miss those days.
*My scars got worse and I was suicidal again so I joined an acne site to get info and that is where I met my now fiance of 5years, he too had acne and scars but only on his back. He is my soulmate and I love him and he saved my life at that fragile time. I had more work on my scars, we lived together at my mums or his for a couple years and struggled to find jobs it was hard and embarrassing at 22/23 but life was still hopeful...things looked okay for the future, I was still down and dealing with my past and my body and face issues but there were saving graces to cling to.
* 3 years my acne got severe again. I was distraught. Mom had paid 6k for my procedures to fix scars. I desperately needed to get a job and I needed confidence for that. I didn't want to lose my fiance cos iof my depression. So I took a drug I had refused 3 TIMES in life because of the side effects. But I was DESPERATE. The drug is accutane. My life has never been the same since.....
....my side effects have never left and in fact got worse and continue to get worse and they will do until I die which will probably be from an early stroke or heart attack thanks to the drug that's if I make it that long.
I have gone from a healthy girl to a broken shell of my former self.
Some of my problems are a direct result of the drug, others are just a result of the damage it has done to every tissue in my body and also a few other dumb things I did like sleeping pills for 5 years straight, getting sunburned on the drug and taking ephedra and overexercising my body to lose weight and taking wellbutrin antidepressant (this worsened my ear ringing, stress has increased it and 3 years later it is now v.loud and ANNOYING)
In short:-
*I am now DEATHLY white my skin has shed and been burned off, I am now allergic to sunshine, even ten minutes brings me out in a rash. No more sun and no more holidays for me.
*If I am not white I am purple or bright red on my arms, hands, legs and feet due to accutane flushing and also vascular insuffuciency. Very ugly and embarrassing. Tipping my hands to my side makes them even redder and purple.
*I have serious varicose veins now and thread veins on my feet, legs, lower back. They are appearing on my stomach and shoulders and boobs now.
*I have super dry thin papery wrinkly skin like an old person that damages easily and I still have extremely impaired wound healing so not only is that ugly on a 26yr old girl but dangerous I have to be careful of any accidents.
*I have extreme pain in all my joints, I have poor digestion and IBS issues and trapped nerves in my back and shoulders, pain in my neck.
* I got endometriosis 2 years ago and had surgery which I never healed from properly, that is painful condition in itself. A lot of people got this after accutane as the drug affects blood, tissue everything but I guess I have no proof it was that. Coincidence though for thousands of us isn't it.
* I have bad tinnitus which in itself makes me want to leave the world as you NEVER get peace and quiet even with noise around you. I can't go to nightclubs or cinema now.
* Oh yeah and I still get acne, have crappy skin and scarring. HA!
There's more but that's the worst I guess. I am physically digusting now and broken on the inside and outside and have done everything I can to help my probelms but I know most are permanent and it is a case of living with them. I guess I feel I can't anymore. I went on the sick from my job over a week ago and know that I cannot go back to that room with that perfect girl or I will really go over the edge. I am pushing my fiance away and I know even he wishes this stuff wasn't happening to my body. He is handsome and he could get a nice normal girl with normal body issues not severe like mine. I try not to burden him but I can't stop crying til I'm sick or pass out.
I am dreading summer and heat so bad as I itch and swell and throb all over my body I want to GET OUT of this skin but I am TRAPPED. I can not go out in the sun and have to cover up my feet my legs my arms, can't cover my hands up in summer I have no idea what to wear again to stop being stared at and commented on like a freak.
Bearing in my mind I used to be a 'normalish' girl as in I had depression and low self esteem but I managed to find things to cling on to in life. Like sitting in the sun, shopping for dresses and shoes, going out dancing or see a movie, having a pamper session (I have to shower or bathe at night in the dark or with a candle to avoid seeing my body now it is so revolting for me to look at and I can not use most soaps, shower gels products etc even water can bring me out in a red rash ffs)
I only exist and continue to breathe only for my mum, little brother and fiance though he will leave me eventually if I carry on this way. Every single second is torment. I regret what I have done to myself. I think of memories fromt he past and it haunts me.
I saw a psychologist and am seeing a cognitive behaviour therapist in a couple of weeks. But nothing will take this pain away or make me accept my body inside and out and what I have done. I feel at the end of my coping limit.
Oh god I'm so sorry this is so long and it was supposed to brief if anyone reads it thank you so much, I don't deserve to be read or have your help after all this moaning.
Ack sorry it is so ridiculously stupidly long
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