Do those who ride their high horses and tell you that you should "just do it" basically, actually mean you well in any sincere way? Or are they just feeding and bolstering their own ego, perhaps having triumphed in their own battle and so now instead of learning compassion, they lean towards condescension: I have done it so it can be done and you can do, so just do it! No excuses, just do it! It is said that humans are strange in that they have ego about all their knowledge, but no knowledge of their ego. Do they think this actually helps? Like I saw a quote saying it is hard work losing weight, and calling someone fat doesn't make it any easier. Obviously every person is different, not because you did something means I can or even should or because you firmly believe this means I should too . I apply this with a broad brush to zealots of any kind: be it weight loss, successful mental health treatment, atheists, religious fanatics. And look around even this site, so many are drugged up to the hilt and for many years even and are still actively or regularly suicidal but they are trying. At the end of the day, what can you really do apart from your best? And your best will vary. You will not always run a 100m in 10 seconds. Some days the best is washing your hair and showering and having a small snack; another day your best is sending out 20 applications, going for a run, doing yoga, cleaning and doing laundry, and reaching out to some friends. What is the use of the added pressure to someone who is already down? And encouragement is not the same as pressure, and there are many ways to strongly suggest without being an arrogant/mean or downright rude person in so doing. Ok, you got over your 'flu' in 3 days. Great! I took 2 weeks to get over mine, and I also had a hoarse voice lingering for 3 weeks after. Oh well. We're both still alive to tell our stories and connect with others. Your way is not necessarily my way or my journey in life. Give thanks for your successes but acknowledge that you do not have all the answers or maybe even a fraction. I don't think even science does. We have seen it evolve from one day X causes cancer, tomorrow it cures it or vice versa. We are all on this basically experimental journey of trying, failing, making mistakes, trying again. I mean what ever happened to live and let live? And show compassion and give support, are you seeking some sort of imaginary brownie points by force feeding "your way" onto someone else's life? At the end of the day none of us make it out of life alive. You could be fighting your damn hardest to beat your mental health illness and then get knocked down dead. Positive thought is great and all, as it is positive but it is not the same as delusion. Even therapists have said that it is okay to acknowledge that factually your past was or your present is "crap" or challenging, whatever the case may be. It is not about ignoring the reality, isn't it really just about trying to overcome daily and hoping for your efforts to eventually succeed? There are so many hopeful rap or other artistes out there that are working their butts off, but you will never ever hear of them, and they will never ever get the break that others have, even if they are more talented. We probably may even know a singer or two who is actually many times over more gifted/talented/skilled than some of the mainstream artistes who are "successful". Should we just keep berating these people and telling them well they are simply not working hard enough obviously? When the reality is that some of the famous ones happened to be at the right place at the right time? Why turn a blind eye to what is reality? Does crucifying someone who has already won the hardest battle by being on here and being alive still, and still trying, help them along their life's journey? Has being told that your whole life circumstances are irrelevant and you're just a lazy moaning piece of shit been "the thing" that really helped someone get better? Does it help or has it helped you to hear that it is all your fault so just fix it? Are you now cured having received this form of help?