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Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Trait

johnDoen

Outsider in the Realm of Lost and Found
#5
I was wondering if anyone out there is also a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). It’s not a disorder; it’s a healthy trait, though you are more sensitive, feel deeper. Sometimes it can be overwhelming.

If you’ve never heard of it, there are books and documentaries.
The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron (book)
Sensitive: The Untold Story (documentary)
Perhaps, too overwhelming that others (non-HSP) may think you are weird, ridiculous, or weak for being unable to handle loud noises, extreme brightness, horror, violent or gory contents, extreme scents and tastes, etc. It's not something I can change. I can learn to control my reactions but there are always frustrations.
 

Auri

🎸🎼Metal Star🎼🎸
Safety & Support
SF Supporter
#10
I try not to add labels to myself, but it's something I found once when I noticed I "felt" the world differently than some people. Of course, I noticed I fit most of the criteria, but like every other personality trait, it's on a spectrum, right.

I found lots of people who identify with that label have a particular need to be regularly surrounded by nature (ideally daily for at least a few minutes). It helps with... everything, I recommend. *yes4
 

alixer

We are all one
SF Supporter
#11
I try not to add labels to myself, but it's something I found once when I noticed I "felt" the world differently than some people. Of course, I noticed I fit most of the criteria, but like every other personality trait, it's on a spectrum, right.

I found lots of people who identify with that label have a particular need to be regularly surrounded by nature (ideally daily for at least a few minutes). It helps with... everything, I recommend. *yes4
Yeah nature is very calming.
 

Velveteen Bunny

Well-Known Member
#12
Yes, I am. Which is part of my problem, because I also have the symptoms of CEN (childhood emotional neglect) and it's been impacting my life all the way up until now, at 50 years-old. I also have something called misophonia, which is literally hatred of sound. Mine is mild in comparison to other people's I feel, but I still have it and it makes being around noisy people a misery. If I had grown up in a supportive environment, home-schooled, and given free reign to develop my artistic and creative passions, I would be a happy person today. Instead, I'm treated with disrespect and contempt by my family. I have never been able to have a full-time job because of my disabilities and right now I am the live-in caregiver of my elderly mother, but my family has no appreciation for what I do for her (keeping her alive and content), I barely get any financial support or practical help from them. No one ever comes to visit except on holidays, and the freeloaders in my family are taking turns moving into my mom's house and because she has been an enabler, would give the shirt off her back to any family member, I have to endure their using my mom's house for a place to live, rent-free.
 
#13
I was wondering if anyone out there is also a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). It’s not a disorder; it’s a healthy trait, though you are more sensitive, feel deeper. Sometimes it can be overwhelming.

If you’ve never heard of it, there are books and documentaries.
The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron (book)
Sensitive: The Untold Story (documentary)
I felt so good seeing this post.
I am completly sensitive. Anything can knock me down so easily. It's a streghth like it is a horrible weakness as well. I feel like people don't talk about how hard it can be to live like this. It hurts me everyday even though, I try to see the good sight of it. Being this sensitive helps me be compassionate and understand people. If you ever want to know in details how it is, be free to contact me.

Thinking of you,
Depressed moonlight
 

MisterBGone

SF Supporter
#14
I felt so good seeing this post.
I am completly sensitive. Anything can knock me down so easily. It's a streghth like it is a horrible weakness as well. I feel like people don't talk about how hard it can be to live like this. It hurts me everyday even though, I try to see the good sight of it. Being this sensitive helps me be compassionate and understand people. If you ever want to know in details how it is, be free to contact me.

Thinking of you,
Depressed moonlight
There used to be a member here, flowers-who knew an awful lot about this sort of thing (Highly Sensitive Person/s). . . I wish she was still here, so that you could talk to her (& me, too!). : ) You seem to have a good 'grasp,' on things, however- ; ) (I think) that's GREAT. :^)
 

MisterBGone

SF Supporter
#15
Yes, I am. Which is part of my problem, because I also have the symptoms of CEN (childhood emotional neglect) and it's been impacting my life all the way up until now, at 50 years-old. I also have something called misophonia, which is literally hatred of sound. Mine is mild in comparison to other people's I feel, but I still have it and it makes being around noisy people a misery. If I had grown up in a supportive environment, home-schooled, and given free reign to develop my artistic and creative passions, I would be a happy person today. Instead, I'm treated with disrespect and contempt by my family. I have never been able to have a full-time job because of my disabilities and right now I am the live-in caregiver of my elderly mother, but my family has no appreciation for what I do for her (keeping her alive and content), I barely get any financial support or practical help from them. No one ever comes to visit except on holidays, and the freeloaders in my family are taking turns moving into my mom's house and because she has been an enabler, would give the shirt off her back to any family member, I have to endure their using my mom's house for a place to live, rent-free.
I'm sorry, that sounds like just about the hardest job on earth, quite frankly~ & I'm not even mildy joking, or any kind of kidding at all, really!
I think I saw somewhere else (& please forgive me if I'm remembering incorrectly, or confusing you with someone else, my mind is not what it used to be / & it never really was all that much!; )). . . but that you'd had an interest maybe in starting a Youtube, Channel~ &/or putting out some kind of content, in some form or matter? But for the limitations, environmentally; or circumstantially, perhaps - rather? Anyway, I just wanted to say that I think it'd be beyond wonderful & great if you were able to figure out a way in which to do so. That is all! And to have something to actually say, or wish to express to the world - I think, is "a gift~!"
p. s. Would you be able to do it from a semi-remote location / like a garage, or some other room or place that is closed off, or where you can get some privacy? You may have to "practice," rehearse; or 'prepare,' prior to--the shoot/filming of it, the actual "podcast~" & then just go do like, what in essence might be live takes (which i guess is what most are..?) but even just record in like,, "chunks!" as well ~~ or something, if that makes it easier or more manageable. Realize all of this could prove incredibly difficult, if given the conditions & your Mom's needs for, or of 'You!' It'd still be really great though, if you could find a way on the "How?" ;D Good luck!!
 

MisterBGone

SF Supporter
#16
I'm sorry, that sounds like just about the hardest job on earth, quite frankly~ & I'm not even mildy joking, or any kind of kidding at all, really!
I think I saw somewhere else (& please forgive me if I'm remembering incorrectly, or confusing you with someone else, my mind is not what it used to be / & it never really was all that much!; )). . . but that you'd had an interest maybe in starting a Youtube, Channel~ &/or putting out some kind of content, in some form or matter? But for the limitations, environmentally; or circumstantially, perhaps - rather? Anyway, I just wanted to say that I think it'd be beyond wonderful & great if you were able to figure out a way in which to do so. That is all! And to have something to actually say, or wish to express to the world - I think, is "a gift~!"
p. s. Would you be able to do it from a semi-remote location / like a garage, or some other room or place that is closed off, or where you can get some privacy? You may have to "practice," rehearse; or 'prepare,' prior to--the shoot/filming of it, the actual "podcast~" & then just go do like, what in essence might be live takes (which i guess is what most are..?) but even just record in like,, "chunks!" as well ~~ or something, if that makes it easier or more manageable. Realize all of this could prove incredibly difficult, if given the conditions & your Mom's needs for, or of 'You!' It'd still be really great though, if you could find a way on the "How?" ;D Good luck!!
PPS) I wonder if you could do it from / in the "bathroom?" (I honestly don't know. . .) :^).*~> ] but there's got to be a way! :)
 

Velveteen Bunny

Well-Known Member
#17
Thank you, MisterBGone for your vote of support and suggestions. Yeah, you were correct, it was me who wants to do videos. I didn't put in my story that a big part of why I'm suicidal is because I have to live with my 30 something niece, her significant other, teen son and nine-year old daughter, in my elderly mom's house. They've taken over the entire house apart from my bedroom and my mom's. They smoke out in the garage and the smell gives me a headache, so I wouldn't be able to do anything out there. I can't complain because they are bullies and would throw a fit. They are nice to me as long as I am pleasant and don't complain. I have live walking on eggshells, because of it.

I could do the videos in my bedroom, but my room's a mess because I have to cram my belongings in here, otherwise take the chance of them getting used or stolen or thrown away. I had made some dried flower arrangements for my mom from past bouquets my sisters had sent, and I had them over on a little table in the dining room. I was adding to them a few weeks ago, and my mom smiled at me and said, you would have liked my mother. I never knew her mom, because she passed away early in life in her fifties due to leukemia before I was even born. So, her saying that made me feel good. Then Valentine's Day came and everyone gave us all tons of flowers. My niece threw out my dried flowers without even saying a word to me, and put all the flowers over on the little table. I was really upset and sad, but I couldn't say anything because my niece is a bully and thinks she is the boss of this house, and she's right. She beat up her partner and teen son right in front of me and her little daughter, roaring and trying to push them out of the house because she was pissed off that he cheated on her at some point (I don't even think it was recent.) This happened only last month. And then I started complaining to the rest of my family, and it got back to her. So, she does passive aggressive things to hurt me.
 
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MisterBGone

SF Supporter
#18
Oh, my GOOD-NESS?!!!? @Velveteen Bunny - (this is almost, just... "Too Much?") . . . I can't believe what you've had to go through, and endure? I forget who said it, someone important, from the past... but it was in essence, or essentially "Life isn't fair... (get over it)." Not that--that applies in its entirety here; mind you - other than the first part/or 'half!'

Now, it is quite shocking to me, that your NIECE is acting in this way. . . Unless she is, as you say she is (& you've listed and cited some excellent examples simply illustrating her character, alone to me!). It's almost like, you'd think She was the Daughter & You, the "Niece?!?" It's really unbelievable & incredible to me, that someone could be that dense, and tone deaf quite frankly. You'd expect, or think if anything it'd be the exact opposite, or the reverse when it comes to the treatment of you (& your Mother) by her, and her family. I wonder if having moved everybody in there like that has sort of created a "set up shop?" -type "feel," or sense of entitlement; whereby, or wherein she now feels like it's her territory? I can't imagine, or fathom doing something like that my self. But perhaps if you interject all those other things (or people) into the mix - it makes it a little bit easier, to "forget," what you're doing... & therefore/then be 'unconscious,' about the entire matter? I don't know, I'm really grasping at straws because it is not something I can put my-self in a position of seeing, let alone doing (what conditions would have to be met, or need to be present, in order for me to behave in this way?)

On the podcast: Yes, I think any-thing you can do, is worthwhile giving it a shot! Even if it means cramming some of the things in your bedroom (if this would even be a possibility?) into the corner, or out of the way, to temporarily give you a "shot," of the corner of the room -- or the edge of the bed. If all you're looking or planning on doing is "talking," and not something, say more 'interactive?' I don't know if you've seen comedian Theo Vonn's podcast (he's got a bunch!). But the one he may have started out with, it just looks like it's him going or flying solo, and there's literally just like a desk there with a chair and him sitting in it. And he sort of just "talks," in monologue style, or fashion, on just about anything. I know he had a producer when he'd started out, and maybe he does have somebody there to assist him, or put it all together when it is done.

But from what I can observe, if you were to try to copy that 'style,' (& you could just watch one of his on Youtube, it's the one that has WEEKEND in the Title, something like - Last Weekend or this past weekend, ...) but you could mute the sound if that course language or style of joke telling is not your cup of tea. But from a camera setup standpoint, or point of view, it is simply just looking like a camera is placed in a static position (or fixed) like say on a table or a chair with some books, whatever is necessary to achieve the right or correct height for you, or that you like. And then I don't even know if it really moves much, or cuts (to different shots/angles) at all, really. And even if it does - it would not be necessary for you to do so, simply set up a cell phone or something, if that's all you got (get a tripod) or make a "make-shift," one. And you're pretty well done! :)

Glad to hear about the story with your Mother & Grandmother and/with "All the flowers!" that was Lovely - (until the end?). Sorry..;) Hopefully, maybe, there's an end in sight (to their tenure there?). And if there is not--then just continue to do the best you can, and try or attempt (even in spite of their/her best efforts- "otherwise!") to ~'live & let Live.' ; ) Best wishes-
 

Velveteen Bunny

Well-Known Member
#19
You guessed right about the situation, MisterBGone. I wrote a lot more in my story area, just now. If I had the means to get out of here whether in a body bag or living with someone else (there is no one else, trust me), I would be out by the end of the month.
 

Catch_22

Well-Known Member
#20
Yes, I am. Which is part of my problem, because I also have the symptoms of CEN (childhood emotional neglect) and it's been impacting my life all the way up until now, at 50 years-old. I also have something called misophonia, which is literally hatred of sound. Mine is mild in comparison to other people's I feel, but I still have it and it makes being around noisy people a misery. If I had grown up in a supportive environment, home-schooled, and given free reign to develop my artistic and creative passions, I would be a happy person today. Instead, I'm treated with disrespect and contempt by my family. I have never been able to have a full-time job because of my disabilities and right now I am the live-in caregiver of my elderly mother, but my family has no appreciation for what I do for her (keeping her alive and content), I barely get any financial support or practical help from them. No one ever comes to visit except on holidays, and the freeloaders in my family are taking turns moving into my mom's house and because she has been an enabler, would give the shirt off her back to any family member, I have to endure their using my mom's house for a place to live, rent-free.
I'm glad to read this as it helps me understand you and your situation better.
 

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