Safety & Support
Erm, so I don't know where I am going with this and don't know if this will end up in one big rant but this post is about my dad really. I really am at the end of my tether with him. I love him to bits but he keeps taking the piss full stop. For as long as I can remember he has been a weekend binge drinker. When I was younger he perhaps used to have maybe 8 beers or so on a friday and saturday night and that was it. It didn't seem to excessive and he was never really drunk. But as the years have gone on his binge drinking has got worse and worse. He moved on from beers to two bottles of wine and now it has turned into about four beers and two bottles of wine every friday and saturday night. He even drank a whole litre bottle of gin to himself a couple of weeks back. It doesn't matter how many times me and my mother try to talk to him he gets offensive and abusive. Last Sunday we had a massive row over it and he called me out on my depression to defendbhis drinking habits so I went absolutely batshit crazy at him. I screamed so loud at him and had to stop myself getting violent. He later apologised and I told him that is fair enough but actions speak louder than words. Tonight business has resumed as usual. He had two beers and said he only had one bottle of wine but I know he hid one outside. He was absolutrly wrecked. It is affecting us in so many ways. He is extremely obese. He is about 25 stone and getting bigger. His asthma is getting worse and he keeps the whole house awake at night with his excessively loud snoring and sleep apnoea. Not matter what I do or say he will not listen. I just know time will take it's toll and he will either have a heart attack or a stroke, or get stopped by the police the morning after his binges and have his driving license taken off him cause he would blow over the limit. All of these consequences would be devastating to him and to me and my mum and would seriously affect our lives. He is also currently having CBT for PTSD supposedly but he will not be honest with his therapist. It angers me because I so desperately want therapy but cannot get it but he is just wasting it. Everything is getting to the point where I am beginning to resent him. I don't want to because he is a good dad, super in most ways but I cannot take this anymore. His snoring now is so so loud even with his bedroom door shut, my bedroom door shut and both of our tvs on. I just want to smack him round the head with a baseball bat and tell him to shut the fuck up. I am really desperate and at the end of my tether. Help???
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