One of the bad habits I have noticed in myself while dealing with my bout against depression and weird addiction is that I often engage in self-talk and say, "Why me? Why does it have to be me who goes through all this when all I ask for is a life with manageable obstacles and bearable challenges? I never expected care-free, worry-free, perfect life. Why is my life so beyond unendurable?" I am sorry if I sound like a whiner by saying such things but it comes from so much frustrations, feelings of exhaustions that have been built up inside me for a long time. Some people told me everyone is given a different card to deal with, some good, some bad. Although my card is not as bad as being paralyzed or living with leukemia, it is very painful, inside. It is very mentally draining, inside. Only people think I am totally fine because I look fine outside. How can I stop engaging in self-talk mode of "Why me?" I know it won't get me anywhere. If anything, it will get me more depressed. But I have hard time stop engaging in such thoughts. Could you offer me any advice on how I change my thinking pattern into constructive, positive way?