How can I tell if someone doesn't like me anymore?

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Unregistered78910, Jan 22, 2008.

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  1. So how can you tell when a friend doesn't want to be your friend anymore?? What signs are there and what can I do to find out? Basically I ask this because I have a friend who doesn't ever really contact me, I always have to contact them. And recently, they have been acting a bit strange, like not talking much to me and not asking me to hang out anymore. I have to initiate it and if I don't, I feel like they wouldn't even ask me anymore. I don't know if I'm just being paranoid or they are trying to give me signs. So what should I do? I don't want to be the "friend" who just doesn't get the message and keeps coming back to where I'm not wanted. Does anybody have any answers or suggestions? Or has anybody been in a similiar situation?
  2. Blackness

    Blackness Guest

    Well I was going to say someone who pretty much ignores you, doesn't contact you blah blah. How are they when you are around them? do you talk normally? or is it you forcing the conversation all the time? Do a test and just not contact them, see if they ever come to you, if not then it might be time to let go.
  3. perry_mason

    perry_mason Well-Known Member

    I can understand where you are coming from and i think Blackness has got it right, you shouldnt contact them and see if they get in contact with you.

    if not, the friendship is probably over.
  4. BlackPegasus

    BlackPegasus Well-Known Member

    Good Advice!
  5. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    Has anything changed lately in your relationship? Has a new person become friends with either of you, or a change in something similar? Sometimes people move on, but they still regard you as a friend. The dynamics of the friendship changes though. If you can, talk to them about it. Let them know that you would rather be apprised if they do not want to spend as much time together than think things are the same when they aren't.Tell them the decision is theirs to make whether they want to contact you or not. See where this leads you.
  6. rojomi

    rojomi Banned Member

    I'm no specialist @ relationships, having ended many. Sometimes, its good to be blunt and ask the person. How else could you know whether or not to waste your time anymore on an ended relationship? Confrontation can be a good thing. Life is short, don't waste it on missing a possible ex-friend. FWIW
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  7. I would confront this person about it, but I know how those things always go. The person being confronted will never tell you to your face that they are sick of you. I mean, would anyone here actually tell there friend they were sick of them if they asked? no, prolly not. I think I will take your advise Blackness. I tried before to not contact them but I caved everytime. I think I'll just have to really get it together this time and take what may come as it comes. and if I never hear from them again, I guess that will be the sign that they are sick of me. Thanx.
  8. martijn

    martijn Active Member

    I guess I am/was in a similar situation..
    When I started cutting, I told the three people I trusted the most about it. We did have quite a few good conversations which I appreciated alot, but - as in your case - they never really contact me anymore, never ask how I'm doing or any such thing. It was always I that had to initiate the conversation.

    I don't think this actually will make you feel better, but.. In my case I just gave up. Friends that I had to work so hard for to keep, weren't the friends I wanted/needed. I wanted someone that just was there for me, not someone that kept forgetting that I wanted to tell them something important. I hardly ever speak to them now, atleast not about anything personal...
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