How can people help me

[nico_justnico]

In the past few years I managed to surround me with good people. I made new friends, and have an amazing girlfriend. Now that things are getting darker in my head, I have many people asking me, sometimes even begging me to tell me how they can help me. How can they? I am not used to having people around, especially when things get though for me.
I used to just isolate myself as much as i could, so I wouldn't have to keep up the facade that i am doing alright. Now that I actually have people who care about me, I can't just isolate myself. People often say that you could talk with them, but after years of swallowing up my feelings, I wouldn't know how to get passed just talking about the things that have happend, and the fact that I'm not doing well.
I am at a loss here. I really want to let people in, but I have no idea how they could possibly support me.

 

[may71]

Sorry that things are tough now Nico.

I wonder if it would help to tell them that you're in the process of trying to figure out how others can help.

You may need some space to try to work things out, but also to have people there if you need them. I think it's often recommended to have a network of support so that you can be sure that no one person has too much burden on them, but you've got enough people to help. So in a sense, having them not worry too much may be one of the best things they can do so that no one's capacity to help is going to burn out.

Are you seeing a therapist now or getting any other form of professional support?