how do i get attention

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by anonymous51, Nov 1, 2007.

  1. anonymous51

    anonymous51 Staff Alumni

    Im not a very outgoing person and havent had a friend or anyone to talk to for about a year and a half and its killing me literally. I dont exercise, i never leave the house apart from when i have to work, i eat shit food every day, i havent bought new clothes in ages because the only time i leave the house is if i need to go to work.

    im just so lonely all i want is for someone to talk about stupid stuff like tv programs and stuff. You guys are all my friends and your really cool but the lack of interaction with other people is making me really sad, i feel like crying every time i see two people holding hands.

    Is there stuff online you can read to get confidence, or do i need to talk to a doctor, maybe someone here has advice on what i should do (i know all that "be yourself" stuff, i tried and it doesnt work.) i might take a holiday soon and get my hair cut and maybe get some new clothes and stuff, i might even pluck up the courage to visit the doctors.

    I just really need help to learn how to fit in, i dont want to be like this anymore, sometimes my mind leaves me and doing shit stuff feels like a good idea and im sorry if ive said stuff on here thats hurt peoples feelings.
     
  2. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

  3. danni

    danni Chat Buddy

    hmm also try going on parks and see if anyone you can talk to. and like what kellz said research some books to build up your self esteem :hug:
     
  4. Beattles

    Beattles Well-Known Member


    i dont want to make you feel bad.. but the reason you are sad is because you are lonely. the reason you are lonely is because you have noones attention.. the reason you have noones attention is because your always at home!
    go to the gym twice a week mate. itll do ya a world of good. then after that i want you to go to a coffee shop and have a drink.
    but before you do any of that, buy some gym clothes, a gym bag, and some nice casual clothes.
    when your done at the gym, change into the casual clothes, drive to a coffee shop and just sit and enjoy the surroundings. dont worry about what anyone else is doing. dont excpet nothin to happen with another person strait up.
    when you feel ready, start talking to girls at the gym.. when you get friendly with one, ask her out for a coffee with ya :)


    hope this helps :)

    ps: dont forget to exchange phone numbers. you never know you both could be each others spotters!
     
  5. down_and_low

    down_and_low Active Member

    Awww, i'm sorry you're feeling so lonely. But it's great that you're now willing to change, and you've already pin pointed things to do, like having a hair cut and buying new clothes. That's great!!
    Getting confidence is indeed difficult. I haven't managed it yet! But doing things to make you feel good about yourself can help alot.
    Do you talk to people at work? Maybe you could go for a coffee with some work collegues. It will give you practice at socialising, but with the benefit of not having to approach a stranger at first.
    Good luck, hope things go really well!
     
  6. Esmeralda

    Esmeralda Well-Known Member

    My best advice is to buy and read ANYTHING by Tony Robbins. This stuff will help you through anything you are going through from a guy who devotes his life to not only helping you succeed professionally, but personally. This man is a genius and literally will help you to make the best of your potential. You will feel amazing just having read this stuff.
     
  7. Fishman

    Fishman Guest

    Tony Robbins ewwww! Go for a walk around your local area and talk to people you see on your way go to your local shops regularly and get to "know" your area and the people in it, as another poster said having a drink or cake at your local cafe can be a good place to feel a part of society.
     
  8. jonstark

    jonstark Well-Known Member

    Maybe just try to take walks. Go out of the house, walk around aimlessly. Maybe find a park and a bench in that park. If it's warm you could read on the bench, if it's cold you could have a smoke or a candy bar or something. I feel less lonely in a park on a bench, watching people pass by. You are still alone of course, but somehow on the outside with live people walking around it's better.