How do you approach women

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by Mordeci, Oct 15, 2010.

  1. Mordeci

    Mordeci Banned Member

    I am not that intreasted in sex but I am intreasted in a romantic relationship ( if that makes sense) so I want to know how do you approach a woman, truth is I never even kissed a girl, so I don't know where to begin?
  2. BP#1

    BP#1 Well-Known Member

    Some women would find your desire romantic. Since your intentions are close to friendship, a yellow rose must be put in play. (yellow=friendship). "Write down your name then Friends? + your #" Onto business card size with envelope. Watch for a girl you like, then introduce yourself. Tell her, "You would like the opportunity to get to know her as friends, handing her the rose. Tell her you would like her to call you to arrange a lunch date............You decide what to say, your voice, the way you stand, The speed you hand her the rose, look deeply into her eyes....... Good luck my friend.....
  3. Mordeci

    Mordeci Banned Member

    I think I should explain a little more, I don't really want a sexual relationship, but I am not above it, I never had sex, never been intrested in it but I am willing to try. I despretly need to make a close friend and the regular ways don't seem to be working for me, so I figured, and my threpist agreed to try and start a romantic/sexual relationship with someone, problem is I don't know where to begin, I can't read women's signals, I don't know what type of woman to go for, exc... so I need advice on how to approach or talk to woman that will lead to a romantic relationship.
  4. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    1) Try internet dating.
    2) Try approaching women. It'll happen as it goes for the most part; to start, look for something about her that's a conversation starter like a tattoo or an interesting watch or something. Expect to fail lots... Well, I assume you'll fail lots. I've never gotten the nerve to try :p

    As for what type of woman to approach, it's hard to say. You don't know how you'll click without trying.
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  5. Poorlaggedman

    Poorlaggedman Active Member

    The important thing is to understand there's lots of fish in the sea. There's probably thousands of women within 100 miles of you that you could have a successful relationship with. Don't ever put all your hope into any one person but take advantage of any openings that come your way. I don't think advice or experience like this can just be taught on an internet forum. You have to learn by yourself to some extent. That may me lots of failing. I'd start off by realizing what women don't like when they meet someone. Certain things that most people would understand but some people don't. Good example there's a dude in a class i take. A student from China and he's obviously culturally impaired. He takes pictures of people and shows porn on his iphone like its a way to attract attention. Yeah and the girls all think he's a creep.

    I find women pretty pathetic and fragile when you first meet them. Good example I joke about why a chick isn't getting married when her little sister has an engagement ring on and that was it, she was pissed because it really mattered to her. Chances are in your situation you have a decent amount of respect for women because you obviously want a relationship. Chances are you might be a pretty cool guy to "have a relationship with" but women don't know that. I'm not saying you should lose respect for them, but you should understand that even the pretty women aren't as unreachable as they may seem. Don't ever tell yourself you're not worth anyones time. Plenty of women would like a guy who actually wants a relationship whether she knows it or not. There's plenty of ways to approach someone and face no repercussions getting shot down. If you take my advice and you have any success the first few times then youre better than 90% of guys. A lot of guys learn this stuff really slow over years and thats a luxery of starting young. Unfortunately women become somewhat more accostumed to being approached and the learning curve might go up for a lot of them the older they get until they start getting desperate in later years. If you feel like speaking to a girl at any location barring a few exceptions (she's sitting next to her husband), do it even if you can't think of much to say. Women are typically pretty timid and the most front ones will typically only give you seemingly innocent openings. You should at least have the basic ability to hold a conversation of course which doesn't take so much skill as BSing skills. This is a way to melt the ice a little and make her feel comfortable to have real conversation. Its all about presentation and your own aura of self worth. Expect more rejection than acceptance, its perfectly normal don't beat yourself up over it when it happens because it will. There's probably barely a guy on this planet whose tried and hasnt been rejected at least once
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  6. Rayne

    Rayne Well-Known Member

    Not sure about the rest of the girls on here, but if a stranger gave me a rose and his phone number, I wouldn't call him. Seems a bit much.
  7. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    You could just socialise first- and make friends- and if anything happens, it happens naturally. Then again, the friends you like might be in relationships themselves.

    You could go down internet dating, or dating scenes and stuff- but, tbh a lot of it can come off as forced. If that's what you're looking for then maybe you could try? :dunno: as there'd be lots of people in the same boat?
  8. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Internet dating is forced but you're on the same page. It's worked out quite well for me... She's been an essential part in controlling my bipolar disorder and moving forward with my life. Much the same has been happening for her.
  9. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    Yeah there are good experiences like yours aeou- which sounds wonderful. :)

    I'm not sure- but if you ever wanted to do the internet dating thing Mordeci, you could say how nervous/inexperienced you are on your profile- you might meet someone who feels similar to you.
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  10. Nyu

    Nyu Well-Known Member

    I think there may be a asexual dating website on the internet.
  11. down-and-maybeout

    down-and-maybeout Well-Known Member

    take my advice mordeci.... don't!
  12. jasonkramer

    jasonkramer Well-Known Member

    try they have a lot of info on how to get women. only problem is most of its geared twords one night stands so most of it could be useless for you but it never hurts to look. just dont pay of anything!

    have you tried joining local groups?

    another 2 sites you could try are or
    their basically just social networks sites. i found a group of local people that play world of warcraft on the meetup site.

    online dating site may help but obviously do research first. if you are going to do cold approaches on women you never met then do go to or some other site or get a book on how to use proper body language and vocal tone. remember most communication is not conducted with actual words.

    once again i am most likely of no help. but i tried. good luck
  13. Tobes

    Tobes Well-Known Member

    Just talk to a woman as if you are trying to make a new friend. Don't work up some plan in your head that you're gonna walk up to a girl, chat her up, and she'll swoon. It'll make the conversation forced, like some sort of dating interview or game.

    Don't read dating advice websites. They are bogus, and some are good, but nearly all will give you false confidence and you may end up believing the wrong 'tactics'. That's the problem right there. You can't use a 'tactic' or a 'trick' to get a girl to like you, women aren't like a fish to be caught, they're a person to be spoken to.

    If you are a likable person, and you aren't afriad to be yourself, she will probably end up liking you.

    Just start a conversation.