I'm getting a tad bit frustrated of my situation lately. I hear all the time, "just wait and sooner or later the right girl will come along" but to be honest, I think that's complete bull****. That might work for someone who's naturally good looking and has an outgoing personality. But for someone like me, I guess it's just going to take a bit of effort on my part otherwise I'm just waiting while life is passing me by, and that's no fun. I'd really like to start being more proactive about meeting people and finding a girlfriend. I mean, I go plenty of places...swimming, the gym, art groups, writing groups...plenty of opportunites to approach people but I'm just too socially anxious to even consider taking such action. How do you go about it? How do you start a conversation with a girl without coming across as creepy for even bothering to try? Even on the rare occasion that someone else initiates the conversation, I clam up. I never really know what to talk about or how to respond. A couple of weeks ago, I was down at the pool length swimming and a girl actually started talking to me. She was chatting to just about everyone who entered the pool. Seemed like the friendly, chatty type and I wasn't sure how to respond and I felt so bad for barely responding. I suppose I'm just not used to other people actually taking the time to talk to me so it catches me off guard. I envy those who can do this sort of thing effortlessly. I suppose the main thing I worry about is being judged as a creep or being laughed at, or perhaps worse - being ignored and looking like a damn fool who's just talking to himself. Any tips or advice?