I just can't deal with the fact that my girlfriend had sex twice with another guy before she met me. It's not that I think she's a slut just for sleeping with somebody. The knowledge of knowing that another guy got to have sex with her makes me feel incredibly jealous and insecure. There was another guy having his way with her, running his hands over her body, having so much fun with her naked. How am I supposed to live with that fact? I really can't understand how in the world people can date other people who are experienced. What do you feel when you think about the fact that your girlfriend / boyfriend did sexual favors for other people? Do you feel jealous when you think about the fact that someone else was having a great time exploring your partner's body with their hands? Does it make you feel bad at all to remember that your partner was in love with other people, having sex with other people? I just can't understand how other people deal with those facts. It really tears me up - I spend hours thinking about how there were two other guys in my girlfriends' life who got to have their way with her, and I lose sleep at night thinking about how it can never be undone or fixed. I'll always be the third. Never the first. There are some honors I'll never have with my girlfriend. She's already experienced many different things and experimented with many different things, whereas I'll be the noobish virgin, all excited the first time whereas it's old news for her. It's an awful feeling. How do you put up with the fact that someone else was pleasured by your lover?