How do you deal with the highly likely possibility that you will live the rest of your life and die alone?

[iloverachel]

For other fellow outcasts, (and also non-outcasts can share their thoughts/advice), how do you deal with the fact that you will most likely live the rest of your life all alone, shut off from the entire world, and that when you die no one would attend your funeral nor care?

This seems to be where I am heading. I don't know how to deal with it. Sometimes I just watch movies or play games so i can temporarily forget about reality.

 

[seabird]

I've had this discussion with a remote friend of mine, who like me is an outcast. They have relatives nearby them though, who invite them to holiday functions. So I think they're safer than they think they are? And to be clear, I have had a partner on & off. But I failed at that. If someone can manage tfind a like-minded partner or friend, that is ideal. But most of us, for whatever reason, cannot.

A plan written down on paper and kept in an easily found location is what I have done. There's no one in this town who knows me at all, so it's going to be found by whoever.
Part of the plan is a request that my ashes get sent to a certain beauty spot in the country. That majes me feel a tiny bit better, a small possibility of control. I hope that is where my remains will dissipate into the waters of a beautiful huge estuary.

Wish there was a way for loners and outcasts to connect so that we're not alone to the end.
I don't think my words helped at all, I'm sorry. For day in and day out management of mood & my self, I try to maintain habits of exercise, practice mindfulness & self-care.

 

[AvidFan]

I'm past caring at this point, I don't really care what happens at my funeral, I won't be there (at least I hope not or there will be a knocking sound coming from the platform!). I suppose I'm lucky that I at least have connections with people through work, otherwise my life is pretty much a solitary retreat (one way to look at it, people pay for that experience, I quite enjoy not having to deal with someone else all the time!)

As for after, from star stuff I came and to star stuff I will return - and at that point we will all be together.

 

[Livelife]

I have people to see about finding my body within days after death in my home or will be notified quickly if I'm out somewhere in public when it happens since I carry their contact information in my purse and then seeing to my cremation and spreading of my ashes in a place I've chosen. That is all I can put in place. I go back and forth with acceptance around this situation.
The dogs, walking them, taking my walks, and tv are my time absorbers. And when I feel up to it, yoga and such.

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

https://www.suicideforum.com/commun...people-wanting-friends-irl-and-online.167553/

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

There are apps like the Snug app that will call your emergency contact (and probably ones that will call 911) if you don't check in every day. Nobody wants to be lying injured and alone unable to call for help.

 

[Astrid78]

I have people to see about finding my body within days after death in my home or will be notified quickly if I'm out somewhere in public when it happens since I carry their contact information in my purse and then seeing to my cremation and spreading of my ashes in a place I've chosen. That is all I can put in place. I go back and forth with acceptance around this situation.
The dogs, walking them, taking my walks, and tv are my time absorbers. And when I feel up to it, yoga and such.

 

[I Love Tomorrow]

It helps me to remember there are many others besides myself in the world that feel the same way, seemingly perpetually separated for some reason. I don't know them personally, but I know they exist, and they're suffering too. There's also much of the world and those in it that might not be good for me, so to me it's nothing lost. Given the choice, I choose to be solitary than be part of something or with someone if I can't be myself.

As far as being remembered or leaving a mark on the world, I could care less. Funerals are for the living in my opinion, and if I'm truly gone, I doubt it will be a concern to me anymore. I remember all of those who had a part in the movie, but were never mentioned in the 'credits', so I am humbled by that.

 

[Ziggy]

Why should anyone care about me? I reap what I sow.

 

[iloverachel]

for all
Sorry to hear some one you are also going through similar thoughts, and those who have already planned out what will happen in the case of death that sounds very terrible I wish it didn't have to be that way

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

I was thinking about this thread. I honestly don't know if it's better to have a partner or not, because they often die first. My stepmother went through agony when my Dad died. She did not want to live, ever again although she lived for many more years.

 

[iloverachel]

I was thinking about this thread. I honestly don't know if it's better to have a partner or not, because they often die first. My stepmother went through agony when my Dad died. She did not want to live, ever again although she lived for many more years.

 

[Nena69]

I think a lot about different scenaries.
My favorite one wich is impossible is that after my death also the memory of me would be erased. My partner, my doughter and my father don't get well along so would't bother them with my funeral. I live among people but I feel lonely.
A a dreat deal is my fault because a lifestyle Im living.
Iloverachel

 

[Gard]

If I'm alone, it's my choice. And if it's my choice, I enjoy it. After all, no one is stopping me from living the way I want.

 

[Nesschen]

@iloverachel : your post has been read and answered. That means there are people who care about you...

 

[seabird]

Stopping by with a hello & a hug @iloverachel .

 

[iloverachel]

Stopping by with a hello & a hug @iloverachel .

Thank you so much

 

[Corrupt_ToTheCore]

Very favorably. Companionship would make separation for end of life exceedingly more difficult.

 

[AvidFan]

Very favorably. Companionship would make separation for end of life exceedingly more difficult.

Reminds me of the Morrissey song "End of the Family line":

Our family tree hacked into decline
And I'm spared the pain
Of ever saying
("Goodbye")

About being celibate/not having any kids, resonates with me.