How do you express anger?

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by Lizzieni, Mar 10, 2011.

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  1. Lizzieni

    Lizzieni Well-Known Member

    My doc increased my antidepressant meds to the max dose on Monday. My Gp says not to give up, to hold on.
    To cut my story short my therapist says I have issues expressing anger. I internalize any anger into self-loathing, selfharm and suicidal feelings.
    These selfhatred and suicidal feelings are overwhelming as you all know.

    So the therapist says I need to smash a cup, scream at the top of a mountain, something like that......

    I live in an apartment, don't have a backyard to smash cups in, neighbours too close to scream, no energy to drive to any hilltop isolated enough to scream on. The depression has zapped any energy or desire for any sport or exercise. Maybe when max dose kicks I'll get more energy, but for now - any ideas for expressing anger would really be appreciated.

    It's so alien to me the thought of smashing a cup- of opening the floodgates terrifies me. But as my therapist says the floodgates must be opened to stop any sh or suicide.

  2. ConfusedSilence

    ConfusedSilence Well-Known Member

    Turn the shower on then take a pillow and scream into it. It should dampen the sound enough so people can't hear you.

    Alternatively, you could buy some cups specially for smashing.
  3. GoldenPsych

    GoldenPsych Well-Known Member

    I find going for a drive and listening to music REALLY loud and singing along in more of a shouting and screaming way but the music is loud you can't hear yourself.

  4. Madam Mim

    Madam Mim Well-Known Member

    I think you should ask your therapist what s/he thinks you should do to express your anger. I'm like you and internalise it, and that's if I even allow myself to feel it in the first place. But I do recognise that it's important to express anger before it eats away at you. I just don't know how.

  5. solutions

    solutions Well-Known Member

    I'm 23 and male, and I internalize the hell out of my thoughts of rage. Part of the reason I was hospitalized last time was because of persistent homicidal ideation. It feels like the only way to ease the intensity is to seriously hurt someone.

    I never have, of course. I still just internalize it.
  6. Lizzieni

    Lizzieni Well-Known Member

    Those are great ideas, thanks so much.
  7. Illusion

    Illusion Well-Known Member

    I express my anger in not so good ways. For example, I claw the hell out of my arm, punch things, scream, and throw stuff. Though the best way I handle my anger is writing a rant then tearing it to shreds. Like one answer said, you could also scream into a pillow. That helps to. Or even punch it.
  8. nolonger

    nolonger Well-Known Member

    I like to smash things, lol. If I get a property when I'm older, I'm gonna buy a car. Just a cheap one, and I'll smash the shit out of it with what ever I have. Bats, axes, picks, hammers. You name it lol.

    I have a problem with internalizing it too. After a while it seems to go away, or I just don't notice it.
  9. Illusion

    Illusion Well-Known Member

    I'll join you :laugh:
  10. dazzle11215

    dazzle11215 Staff Alumni

    tear up a really thick phone book. it's harder than it looks and a good way to get some aggression out.
  11. IV2010

    IV2010 Well-Known Member

    I go for a drive and scream, thump the bed , scream in a pillow..
    walking helps or running if you're fit..
  12. TWF

    TWF Well-Known Member

    I'll whisper the most insane, vile insults at myself. Emotionally tear myself apart, just talking to myself and feeling like a fuck-up is enough of an outlet.....
  13. looks like you don't need any more suggestions, but if you scream "GRRRRR" into the pillow with all of your anger it might add to the 'angry factor' (as long as it doesn't make you laugh, that defeats the purpose). :)
  14. doityourself

    doityourself Well-Known Member

    Yep, Me To.

    anything with a loud fast pace, esp eminen and old guns N roses.
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