My husband recently told me that I relive past injuries inflicted by others so I can gather up ammunition in case it happens again. Example: someone insults you and you brood over it and think up ways to retaliate. The problem is that I just carry around these attitudes and potential insults and retributions in my head without using them and they poison the way I perceive the world and others. It's scary how well he knows me. My motto has become, 'if you expect people to be stupid and shitty you will never be disappointed.' How do I get over this?