i know that seems like a really stupid question but its one i have been trying to figure out for years and i want you input. i am a very emotionally immature or possibly emotionally retarded person and am not sure how to approach this. for most of my life i have been able to suppress all my emotions but hatred and anger. if a movie i watch attempts to make the audience feel happy or sad i will do my best to resist that and i will win. unless it deals with hatred or anger in which case i will lose. this natural defense mechanism has caused me some issues when it comes to forming bonds with people. example. girl gets drugged by unknown person. later the night she bites my arm hard enough i had a welt and teeth marks on my arm. 12 hours later she wakes up in my truck and asks why her head hurts, her foot hurts and why she cant remember anything. i explain it all to her and show her what she did to my arm...for the next month every time she sees me she hugs me and kiss me saying how great full she is. my response to all this is every time she warmly approaches me i clampdown all my emotions and become as cold as possible. this is perhaps one of the best examples i have. to further expand on this, the girl in question made it quite clear she was interested in me, she even explicitly said she wanted to sleep with me. i couldn't care less about sex but i find it frustrating that it takes so long for me to build a connection to people when they obviously want the connection. right now i figure i have 2 options. either use my normal strategy of blocking emotions and continue to fail at stopping my hatred and anger or i can try to use my other emotions to essentially bury my hatred and anger. so tell me how you use your emotions? anything you have to say could be useful.