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Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Fantasy Addict, Apr 1, 2009.

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  1. Fantasy Addict

    Fantasy Addict Active Member about your emotions?

    I thought of this topic last night during therapy. Because my dad always discouraged talking about emotions, I've always been very bad at it. Being a very intellectual person, I find it much easier to detach myself from my emotions and speak about them from a logical standpoint as if they belong to someone else. For example, instead of saying things like, "Because this happened to me, I feel like this." I'll say something more like, "Well, if a child is introduced to this at an early age, naturally, this would be a responsive coping mechanism."

    As you can tell though, I have no problem talking about things like that on the internet.

    How about you?
  2. jameslyons

    jameslyons Well-Known Member

    I articulate my emotions with literary figures as reference points.

    "Well on occasion I feel as though Victor Frankenstein when he woke up off the coast of Ireland after burning the half-completed monster. "

    "All too often, I've felt like Eponine from Les Miserables, you know - ugly and scorned by all society without any hope of redemption."

    Or I'll simply state the facts. As a writer, I don't have a difficult time articulating what I feel. I do however, have trouble trusting people enough to voice how I feel; my social mask is often fastened tightly against my skin.
  3. Fantasy Addict

    Fantasy Addict Active Member

    That's a fascinating way of describing yourself. You seem like a very unique individual, and I have a lot of respect for you.
  4. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Well you seem to have some idea. You talk about it as if it was someone else. Notice that, and try to use I statements instead. Like I feel this way and so this is how I reacted. That's one way to start.
  5. Fantasy Addict

    Fantasy Addict Active Member

    Yeah, but then I get all nervous and start stuttering. I start thinking that what I'm saying sounds stupid, and I can't talk. I get nervous around real people, so when I meet with my therapist, I have to talk as if I'm not talking about myself...

    Is there a way to get past that? :sad:
  6. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    It sounds as if you and your therapist still haven't completely made that bond yet.. Maybe by talking to her/him you can learn to open up more.. I am very casual with my therapist and she is very comfortable around me.. She always gets me to smile before I leave. That is no easy task because I never smile. It helps to deter people away from me..I also don't do well around people.
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    Oak Senior Member & Antiquities Friend

  8. Sadeyes

    Sadeyes Staff Alumni

    I first chose someone very safe who I knew would accept me and what I was saying...the more I did it, the easier(although still a little difficult which I think is normal) it became...hope you find your voice in deserve to be heard...all the best, J
  9. Crue-K

    Crue-K Well-Known Member

    It is so hard to talk about your emotions. I've been seeing my current psychiatrist for about 5 years and my CPN about 7. They now only about 40-50% of what I feel, my concerns, hallucinations etc etc. If I need to get something off my chest (emotion) I ring a helpline called Breathing Space (for people in Scotland) I usually chew their ear off for an hour probably freaking them out about what's going on with me and it usually makes me feel better. Sometimes when I am really anxious or paranoid or just really down, I write a letter to myself (lame, I know) and let rip.
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