How have you pushed through?

[Seajay]

I need some advice on how to push through and get over some feelings I have for a co-worker. I know the basics of just dont think about him, focus on your hobby, etc, but its not really working. Im not in a good place in life right now, so I dont even want to mention my feelings towards him, especially since I figure if we did get into a relationship, itd maybe last 3 years, and then fizzle out. And I dont even know if he likes me in that way, so thats a big factor. Hes just so nice to me, and hes pretty handsome for being much older than me. I just want this feeling of loneliness and longing to stop, Im not in a good place in life right now and I dont want to burden him with my bs. So, how have you gotten through these feelings?

 

[lost_in_a_fairytale]

In my case I have to totally distance myself from them/cut them off or find a new person I admire. Even with distancing it's still taken me months or years to get over someone, I don't know how others do it quickly

 

[Seajay]

In my case I have to totally distance myself from them/cut them off

I get that, and thankfully Ill be switching jobs soon so I wont be working with him any more

 

[lost_in_a_fairytale]

I get that, and thankfully Ill be switching jobs soon so I wont be working with him any more

that's good, that should help a lot. I find it impossible to detach myself from someone/get over feelings for them if I have to keep seeing them