How is alcoholism avoidable?

Discussion in 'Self Harm & Substance Abuse' started by Struggler_, Aug 31, 2012.

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  1. Struggler_

    Struggler_ Active Member

    My family has a long history with alcoholism. My father and most of my uncles have died as a result of it, and I seem to be on the same track. I'm 23, and drink alone whenever I can. It's the only thing that can keep me consistently happy. Any normal night I have ups and downs, depending on what's going on, but if I'm drinking...there are only ups. I don't get sad or depressed when I drink...it's the simplest "cure" to my problems right now.

    I know this is a big problem, though...

    How does one avoid becoming an alcoholic when it's so ingrained into my blood, as well as such a wonderful and "needed" feeling for myself?

    I don't fear what may happen in the near future, but what may happen later on. I've been drinking alone whenever I could for the last 3 years, and I love it. I know I shouldn't be doing it, but it's the only thing that makes me legitimately happy for such a long period (an entire night). I'm no longer tense, I don't care about my problems, I can talk to my friends honestly and openly (I'm normally very shy, closed off, and tense), and I just genuinely feel better when I'm drinking.

    At my age, I think I know what moderation is; what my limit is...but for how long? How long until I go too far and can't pull myself back?

    This is something I've thought about for a while, but have never really shared with anyone...

    I'm just.......worried about what it takes for me to be happy is going to do to me in the long run....
     
  2. NYJmpMaster

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    long history with alcoholism
    drink alone whenever I can
    only thing that can keep me consistently happy
    genuinely feel better when I'm drinking
    only thing that makes me legitimately happy for such a long period (an entire night)
    wonderful and "needed" feeling for myself


    Sorry, you have clearly outlined the thought process of an alcoholic - I could break it down point by point but will not unless you ask me to.


    At my age, I think I know what moderation is; what my limit is..

    I am less than sure either you or I believe this statement to be true


    How long until I go too far and can't pull myself back?

    You really should get some professional help and see if it is still possible at this time even.


    .worried about what it takes for me to be happy is going to do to me in the long run....

    with very good reason - please seek help while it is reasonably possible and before it has became a life long process
     
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  3. DrNick1010

    DrNick1010 Well-Known Member

    I've kind of been struggling with this myself lately as well. It's weird. I never really get that drunk when I'm with my friends, but lately I've been spending A LOT of time alone (part of my current job and situation right now) and I find that I rarely can have just one drink. I'm something of a follower as it is so I think that a lot of it has to do with fitting in. Hardly any of my friends drink a lot. Most just have a few and then call it a night. Plus I get lonely sometimes when I'm by myself and drinking is an easy way to pass the time. But man does it suck getting up the next day with a hangover and feeling nauseous and having heart palpitations and headaches. It sucks. It's no good. I need to control myself better. You could try going cold turkey if you want, but what might work better is to give yourself an "allowance." Meaning, "I can only buy one thing of whatever for a month." That way, if you do get drunk off of it, you can't get more until the next allowance time. Anyway, just a thought. Hope this helps.
     
  4. kote

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    try antabuse from the dr. it stopped me straight away.

    i had my issues and this medicine was a wonder drug.

    also for feeling better aswell as coming of the drink see if you can get a few valium to relax you.

    i hope you find an easy way - but in all honesty antabuse stopped me drinking straight away.
     
  5. jnick

    jnick Well-Known Member

    It will simply stop working for you. It will become a job in itself. You will be in extreme denial. Really bad shit will happen repeatedly and you will swear it off, then get drunk again. Watch your life deteriorate and quite possibly be in such a state of denial as to why your life is so bad get drunk some more. Just my experience, perhaps not, no wait it sounds pretty much like it will. You can change this however but it is difficult. Do it before you really screw yourself like I have. Funny thing about alcohol is the ability it has to make you feel like everything is just fine, until its not, but oh wait I can just drink and forget about all this shit. Alcoholism is grand.
     
  6. kote

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    if you honestly want to stop:

    antabuse

    simple as that. obviously withdrawal will be difficult as will your social life.

    valium for withdrawal and a new healthy hobby to socialise and make a new circle of friends which isnt focused on drink.

    it can be done - i did it - it wasnt easy and i dont say it will be. but seriously: antabuse!!!
     
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