rude, selfish, inconsiderate people? Please don't delete this because this ISN'T a repeat question. I haven't asked this before. I'd like to know how certain people can shun, ignore, reject, and ostracize those they lack patience with (aka people with ADHD) but refuse to do the same with rude, selfish, inconsiderate people. This user told me that being rude, selfish, inconsiderate, teasing others, and getting away with it can help you become popular because those are socially acceptable traits. If that's the case, lots of people must exercise patience with rude, selfish, inconsiderate people, as inconceivable as it sounds. Is naivete the only reason decent human beings exercise patience with rude, selfish, inconsiderate people and refuse to shun, ignore, reject and socially ostracize them, or are there more reasons? You can bet one of the reasons the Santa Barbara shooter snapped was because too many people lost patience with him. That ain't to excuse his behavior. Just saying that's a possible motive. And p.s. I posted this in the relationships and sexual orientation section because this does deal with human relationships. If it belongs in another section please let me know. And please let it stay up.