How low can it get?! Please share

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by darkrider, Nov 5, 2008.

Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
  1. darkrider

    darkrider Well-Known Member

    At 20 years of age i'm unemployed (never worked), I am out of education (had to leave uni), and I only have one friend who I never see anyway. I suffer with anxiety, and am very shy. My shyness has improved slightly simply because i'm a mature person, but socially I am hopeless compared to my peers. Since 4/5 years ago i've had depression. I can't manage to get out of the house and temporary work while I sort myself, I just feel so nervous and hopeless. When I look at people my age I feel down because they're so confident and assured, and have good things going on in their lives. I feel depressed looking at women my age because I feel useless, I can't live up to them. I'm just wondering how much lower I can get. All I feel is sadness and hopelessness every day. I feel on my own in the world. In reality, I am.
  2. Sadeyes

    Sadeyes Staff Alumni

    Hi sorry you are feeling so there any course or such you can do on your computer to make your time more enjoyable? just a thought, and hope you feel better...J
  3. bluegrey

    bluegrey Antiquities Friend

    Hi darkrider, I'm forty one and I've been ridiculously shy all of my life. To make matters worse, I was severely physically abused until the age of nineteen (big fistfight with my Dad ended it). I worked from the age of nine (paperboy) to age twenty six at various jobs and shyness made me go through endless panic attacks. I also have OCD and now almost constant major depressive episodes.

    All of these problems, the shyness, anxiety and depression are related to under activity of the left prefrontal cortex/ over activity of the right. It is becoming less of a mystery and medications/ physical interventions are being developed to correct what is keeping us from feeling the same pleasures and confidence we see so tantalizingly all around us.

    I hope you can keep fighting and have hope until true relief comes.
  4. jameslyons

    jameslyons Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Twenty was tough for me too. But life gets better.
  5. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    You know there is help out there. You can see a therapist about your issues. or you can see a behavioral specialist to learn how to be more social. There is group therapy(works for most people but didn't help me because I felt I was being singled out). So you see there are options, There are probably more than what I have listed. Just give it a try, what do you have to loose? Take Care!!~Joseph~
  6. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Hi Darkrider, we sound like we are in similar situations. I also suffer from anxiety and am very shy and practically have no friends, im sorry i dont have any advice i can offer you, but im here if you want to talk,

    big hugs
  7. Mightbehere

    Mightbehere Well-Known Member

    Well just to think of a few things your not in jail or prison?
    you don't have a crimminal record for horific crimes?
    you don't have a kick me sign tattooed on your head?
    you don't have a legion of people that hate you?
    You have both or at least one parent to look after you?
    you have at least one friend?
    you have a computer?
    you have food and shelter?
    you have no major medical? (non mental problems?)
    Your only 20?
Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.