My wife was incredibly supportive. And really really good at knowing when I needed her help (or sometimes needed her to take care of stuff for me), and when I just needed some encouragement to be able to handle things on my own.
Like, sometimes, the stress of dealing with other people would get so bad that I’d need her to literally speak for me. And she knew when to do this without me having to tell her. She’d see the anxiety getting the better of me, and she’d give my hand or my shoulder a little squeeze, which I knew meant “don’t worry babe, I got this” and she’d take over for me. And she’d do it so smoothly that no one but us noticed. And she could tell when my mind had settled and she could back off and let me speak for myself again.
She just understood me in a way I’ve never experienced with anyone but her. It was incredible. She pretty much always knew what I needed from her, be it advice or encouragement or, usually, just a hug. I almost never had to ask for those things.
It probably helped that we’d known each other for almost a decade, and become each other’s closest friend, before we got together. So she knew exactly what she was getting into and she’d had plenty of time to learn all of my little behavioral habits and quirks.
I don’t mean to make her out to be perfect, she had her flaws like anyone else. But lack of empathy and kindness were never among them. I wish everyone here had someone like her in their lives.