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How to accept weight?

Discussion in 'Appearance and Body Image' started by littlelucy, Jan 23, 2018.

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  1. littlelucy

    littlelucy Well-Known Member

    I hate my weight and I hate my body. I'm starting to feel like I don't "have what it takes" to change it, so I should just accept it. :mad:
     
  2. dtc

    dtc at least that's what I keep telling myself!

    I listened to this yesterday, it's done in a comedic way but makes some really good points. Be aware though that Nikki does go into some pretty heavy territory in regard to her eating disorder so if that's likely to cause you concern then give it a miss.

    https://omny.fm/shows/story-club/1-01-nikki-britton-juliet
     
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  3. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Hi lucy :) Would you like to tell us more, are you overweight obese or? I'm sure we could help you. I'm currently trying to lose weight too, I know how hard it is and the toll it takes on the mind.
     
  4. littlelucy

    littlelucy Well-Known Member

    I weigh about 130 and I',m 5' 4" and I'm 25.
     
  5. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    I could be wrong but isn't that about normal weight? I remember being 130 many years ago and that was ideal. Do you suffer from an eating disorder or just want to lose the odd few pounds?
     
  6. littlelucy

    littlelucy Well-Known Member

    No, I just want to be skinny. I like my BMI to be about 18
     
  7. Innocent Forever

    Innocent Forever Go as long as you can. And then take another step. Chat Pro SF Supporter

    Why don't you go to a nutritionist?
     
  8. littlelucy

    littlelucy Well-Known Member

    Because I'm not rich??
     
  9. Innocent Forever

    Innocent Forever Go as long as you can. And then take another step. Chat Pro SF Supporter

    :) How'd you know why I don't go.
    The question is whether you're wanting something healthy, whether the view of yourself is correct or not. I wouldn't know the answer. I know my own body perception probably isn't the greatest.
     
  10. littlelucy

    littlelucy Well-Known Member

    Well you clearly have more money than I do because that's not why I don't go.
     
  11. Kira

    Kira SF Gelfling Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    I'm pretty sure that if you saw a nutritionist (regardless if you can afford it or not) they would tell you that you are in a healthy weight range. A nutritionist isn't going to help you become overly skinny. It's all about a healthy balance.

    As you said that you can't afford a nutritionist, I'm sure there are multiple sites on the Internet that could help you lower your BMI. And it's free! Bonus!
     
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  12. littlelucy

    littlelucy Well-Known Member

    Thanks for the obv.
     
  13. Kira

    Kira SF Gelfling Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    We're all just trying to help you. If you don't want any advice then please just let us know in the future.
     
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  14. Coleslaw124

    Coleslaw124 Active Member

    BMI isn't a great measure, try to figure out your body fat percentage. With more muscle you could weigh more but look smaller and vice versa. You seem at a fine weight but I'm not gonna tell you to stay any way you aren't comfortable. I'm technically at a "healthy weight" but I'm also trying to lose body fat. Lifting weights might make you nervous but it actually helps a lot and won't make you bulky unless you start some steroids. Body weight exercises too. Losing weight without gaining muscle at this size requires so much restriction and takes so long it will get overwhelming. Muscle will up your metabolism making it less frustrating. Also take into account your frame size. A large frame won't look as good at 18 BMI as a small frame.

    You can totally do it. Just do it in a healthy way and it'll last. Be sure you don't get obsessed. I'm sure everyone is nervous you're an ED risk because you're a healthy size. But really there's nothing wrong with wanting to look different as long as you don't hurt yourself. Best of luck
     
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  15. Coleslaw124

    Coleslaw124 Active Member

    See, it makes a big difference
     

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    Coleslaw124 Active Member

    See, you could even weigh more and look better. Sorry, didn't know how to add more than one.
     

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  17. Lynne1974

    Lynne1974 Well-Known Member

    Wow. Someone here has an attitude problem. So sorry you can't reach your anorexic dreams, littlelucy. If you have to be rude, why reply? Or even ask for advice? And I don't even want to know what you think of people who aren't skinny, or people who are overweight.
     
  18. Flying Fox

    Flying Fox SF Supporter

    This forum is here to offer support, regardless.
     
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  19. Lynne1974

    Lynne1974 Well-Known Member

    Supportive of rude and inappropriate comments??

    I do agree that this forum should be used for support.

    I'm simply saying that respect and politeness go a long way. No one here is obligated to support anyone who cannot respect basic forum rules.

    If I spoke out of turn, I'm sure I'll be contacted by a moderator/staff.
     
  20. Flying Fox

    Flying Fox SF Supporter

    Like you say, everyone deserves respect and consideration. Treat others as you would have them treat yourself. I dislike rude and inappropriate comments as much as the next person, but I believe that where there is the hammer, is also the scalpel. My opinion, but it is up to the individual on how they write.
     
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