I think I frustrate people because I have no idea how to deal with conflict. I will cry, I will get upset, I will want to hide. I blame myself for everything even if it isn't all my fault. I grew up in a house where people punched holes in walls, knocked each other out, got drunk and fought all night long. I remember being scared and hiding behind chairs when the police would come over to break up fights. My family still is at each others throats constantly, so I never learned the proper way to deal with intense emotions. I feel like a scared little kid when there is arguing. Sometimes when people say "We're not arguing, we're just discussing" it baffles me because it feels like the end of the world and like I am about to lose them. Obviously this causes problems when I take things far more harshly than I need to. So I was wondering if anyone has dealt with anything similar, or any tips on how to deal with fighting or even just discussing things that aren't so pleasant, without turning into an emotional wreck as a result.