How to Respond to someone after no contact for months??

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by yous, Dec 21, 2011.

  1. yous

    yous Well-Known Member

    Scenario: long distance so called FWB relationship. Person A liked Person B more and wished to have had an actual relationship but Person B was a bit stubborn and took advantage of Person A a bit. Feelings Person A has for Person B is still lingering, but ever since Person B got into a relationship, Person A stopped communicating with Person B.

    Now after months later, Person B contacted Person A. They spoke casually for a short bit bringing back old haunts. Now Person A does not know how to proceed with Person B's continuing yet short text messages.

    Should it still be casual? Should Person A ignore some texts/communication...what? Person A would like to build a friendship of course, but not sure if past hurts would be brought up? Why did Person B contact person A again after Person A tried to move on. Playing the pursuing game is difficult for Person A. How should Person A lure Person B's interest and avoid something in the past from happening again where Person B left Person A in a lurch and now is coming back??

    Please any thoughts. I can add to more scenario, but need desperate advice. Thanks
  2. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    oh hun go slowly very slowly just be friends do not get harmed again okay
  3. marklondon

    marklondon Well-Known Member

    Be careful. Sounds like there's a power imbalance. If B knows A likes B more, then when, for example, things don't work out in B's other relationship, B can fall back on A for some easy attention. This is in fact taking advantage of A, because it's very hard for A to resist because of the feeling of having unrequited feelings finally returned. Also, building a 'friendship' in a situation like this is something which is often attempted, but in my view, rarely succeeds. It's a minefield.