Any tips? I have been self harming pretty bad recently... I didn't know how to tell my LDR boyfriend... when I finally did he blamed himself... its hurt him greatly that he "wasn't enough" (his words!) He's supporting me the best he know... but it's so obvious he's hurt. We even had a bit of a fight... *raises hand* that I guess I started... When we found each other I warned him about this side of me... I practically told him to stay away... and he refused to listen. A fact I am happy with I have to admit. But... how do you help your loved ones when they suffer for what you did?