How true do you think this is?

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  1. LenaLunacy

    LenaLunacy Well-Known Member

    My mom has often voiced her opinion on suicidal feelings and self harm around me and her main opinion is that it's only the younger generation, i.e. the under 25, who really suffer from this. Why? Because of the 'depressing' music and dvds we listen to.
    I, personally, don't agree with this at all. Suicidal thoughts affect anyone, regardless of age. And, imo, have NOTHING to do with the 'depressing' lyrics in our songs or the graphic programs we now watch. Plus, i know many of the (no offence meant) 'older' generation, her generation i would say, that are suicidal, or have been....
    So what are your opinions on my mother's view of suicidal feelings and self harm?
     
  2. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Show your mom the antiquities forum.
     
  3. bhawk

    bhawk Well-Known Member

    i personally think the people who suffer depression turn to depressive music because people seem to want to listen to music they can relate to. i cant see music making you depressed but depressed people listening to the music does make sense.
     
  4. Robin

    Robin Guest

    Ketchup Song :yes:
     
  5. LenaLunacy

    LenaLunacy Well-Known Member

    Haha. My mom went mental the first time i told her about this place. She seems to think it will make me worse. When in reality it's one of the few thigns that keeps me alive.
    But yea, the antiquities forum on here just blows my moms opinion right outta the water
     
  6. snowraven

    snowraven Well-Known Member

    I could give her a ring if you want.:laugh: Some people just don't have a clue. Maybe it all just scares her.:hug:
     
  7. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni

    Sounds like she is scared to take responsbility for the obvious role she played.
     
  8. LenaLunacy

    LenaLunacy Well-Known Member

    I was just walking downstairs, with a short sleeved shirt on and an old scar showing...and she goes 'that's a nasty cut' and i was like 'no it's old' and she was like 'well it's deep. I don't know. Teenagers today...in my day and age we used to just get on with it.' ¬¬
     
  9. Jenny

    Jenny Staff Alumni

    It's like the chicken and the egg though eh.. I mean, did i become depressed because of the music i listened to or did i listen to the music because i felt depressed and it seemed to be the only thing i could relate to, and it helped me? It seems easy to blame music and 'youth culture' on everything.. easier than looking at her own role she may have played/be playing.
     
  10. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Total lies.

    http://www40.statcan.ca/l01/cst01/health01.htm

    Higher in 1981 than today. I don't know when she was a teenager, but chances are very good that the suicide rate was similar back then.

    Also, it should be noted that young people are more suicidal on the whole - hence why there's only a special, small forum for the antiquities - but I think that has to do with hormones and trying to find our place in the world, rather than the music we listen to.
     
  11. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni

    My parents used to say that sort of stuff to me too.
    What that's really saying is, "In our generation, we learned that getting help = weakness, so that is how we want you to feel as well; it's only fair."
     
  12. LenaLunacy

    LenaLunacy Well-Known Member

    Yea it's true that the suicide rate was higher back then. But then, what about self harm. Self harm has been on the rise quite rapidly recently, i think (?) And my mom and gran say it wasn't something that was around in their day? Is that because of youth culture, or was it just more hidden and not talked about in the generations of my parents?
     
  13. bhawk

    bhawk Well-Known Member

    Egg came first due to evolution.
    although i think your right the music becomes a scapegoat for society that wants to pass the buck, i think many problems do stem from the family and lack of communication. lack of communication being the main problem.
     
  14. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    I want to see proof before I believe that. I don't suppose it's anything new, because self-harm is a biochemical thing [endorphins + adrenaline = relief] which has remained constant throughout human existence. I also suppose you would have been more careful not to get caught. But I don't think we're any different than we used to be.

    Edit: bhawk, you're answering the question as it is written, not as it is meant. The question is properly, "which came first, the chicken or the CHICKEN egg?" Pointing at eggs of other species is pretty sketchy.
     
  15. LenaLunacy

    LenaLunacy Well-Known Member

    But then...taboo subjects, like anorexia, mental disorders and everything, are much more widely 'accepted' (for want of a better word), whilst suicide and self harm are, slowly, getting there...so tht makes me think that maybe self harm, suicide and all that was existent in my parents generation, but due to the serious taboo nature of it, similar to today, it was never mentioned, and hence noone really knew about people doing it.
     
  16. worlds edge

    worlds edge Well-Known Member

    Nope, at least according to this...

    http://www.suicidology.org/associations/1045/files/2005datapgs.pdf

    The highest suicide rates are in the 45-54 y/o age bracket, at least in the USA, as of 2005 and for several years before.

    And of course men are WAY more likely to carry off a suicide than women are, in the aggregate, again at least in the US. (I think the figures reverse in China.)

    Not so sure of this bit, however. I think to an extent we are what we eat, to use a truism. But if you have any empirical evidence you can use to buttress your point, I'll concede.

    I spent three months on a locked ward for a suicide attempt, and three more months in the mental health part of a community hospital in 1980-1 (age 16 to 17.) Quite frankly self-harm and anorexia were barely on the table, leading me to think it is much more prevelant among adolescents these days than it was back then. Suicide I'm not so sure, but I'd guess it is probably roughly the same.

    And like I said, suicide rates for older adults is not much different than they are for a younger age demographic. In fact they're slightly higher.
     
  17. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Huh, suicide rates are indeed higher in the 40-44 age bracket. I did think it to be more of an issue among youths.
     
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