How would you feel about a guy with little money?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by SadDude87, Aug 21, 2008.

  1. SadDude87

    SadDude87 Well-Known Member

    Here's the thing - I'm 21, have a steady job, go to university, drive my own car etc but due to circumstance I have no savings in the bank.

    Is this a major issue when it comes to dating and attraction? Sure money helps, but is my situation a deal breaker?

    Forget that I have emotional issues and am on a suicide site - You find a guy you like and is in my situation. What do you think?
  2. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

    Who cares. Money is the root of all evil. If I like someone and I find him sweet and caring and he likes me the same way then money should not be a factor. I mean if the person is dead broke and I'm paying for everything allt he time it's wearing, but if you have money and not alot of it who cares.
  3. Elle.

    Elle. Well-Known Member

    Not an issue imo..

    It's about wanting to be together. Money can always become an issue when there is children or housing etc. involved, but with a strong relationship it should be about loving and taking care of eachother.

    If it'd be me I would always have my family there to support me in a situation like this, I don't know otherwise so can't really say anything else..

    Hope I helped a little :)

  4. flowerpot

    flowerpot Well-Known Member

    Not really, I don't think money should matter to be honest. You shouldn't like someone for their money, you should like them for the person they are. You seem to be doing pretty good as it is, so it's not as if you're struggling or anything. Also, should it really be anyone else's business, the amount of money in the bank you have? Personally, money wouldn't really mean a thing if it were me, the only thing is it might be awkward if you were going out with someone extremely rich or something.
  5. Dark~ness

    Dark~ness Member

    How much money a man has has little relevance in how "attractive" they are in my eyes. I would much rather be with a guy who had little money, but we got on great and he made me happy... than be with a guy who had lots of money, but didn't make me happy. Money is not a reason for me to stay with someone. I've had the experience of both. I would be with whoever made me happy, money doesn't come into the equation.

    And anyway, it sounds like you're doing well for yourself. You should be with someone who cherishes and adores you, just the way you are :smile:

    D x
  6. LetItGo

    LetItGo Staff Alumni

    Not a deal breaker for me. In saying that, if the relationship becomes long term and you guys want to move forward financially so you can buy a house, travel etc...whatever the goals are, and one partner isnt quite stepping up to the plate...well over time that could become an issue.

    It shouldnt be an issue in dating though.
  7. Issaccs

    Issaccs Well-Known Member

    The kind of girl who is put off by lack of money is the kind of girl you should AVOID LIKE THE FUCKING PLAGUE
  8. Nyu

    Nyu Well-Known Member

    lol, that's hardly a concern. Well, for me at least. I guess some people are shallow like that. But I wouldn't want to date a shallow person anyways. So yh, wouldn't worry about it. :p
    You're just killing brain cells thinking about it :rolleyes:
  9. Spearmint

    Spearmint Well-Known Member

    Like others have said, money shouldn't be a factor. I honestly don't care how much a guy has as long as he treats me good. And I agree with Ivan Isaacss, anyone like that, you should avoid like the plague. They aren't worth your time or effort.
  10. XXXXX

    XXXXX Antiquities Friend

    Not at 21. As long as you have a few dollars in your pocket for entertainment / socialising. Not a lot. Just enough so you do not have to borrow from her (at least not on the first date :tongue:) or are worried that she might not offer "to go dutch" :tongue: "Prospects" are also part of the attraction in a long term relationship, gets kinda mixed up with "Possibilities" matter that most don't actually progress.

    IMO as one gets older and if she is looking for a long term relationship (or viewing any prospects through that lens :rolleyes:) then "what you have" does become more important. Not a deal breaker for all. But a consideration for enuf, and in many respects for good reasons - if someone has managed to get through their prime earning years without collecting any security along the way then they probably are not going to do so in the future (different dynamic for those who have had it - but lost it :sad:)......not to say that women always view things through cash terms, but a gals gotta think of her future :rolleyes: even if not admitting to herself that it is part of the attraction.........of course not to say their aren't those women (of all ages) who subscribe to the motto "what's in it for me in pure cash terms" (apparently it's not called whoring if they get paid in arrears. Go figure!!.........the mind is a wonderful thing when it comes to self deception. But in my book, and as Santa Claus says,..........."Ho Ho Ho" :laugh::laugh:).
  11. odnox

    odnox Well-Known Member

    Keep in mind that a lot of the attitudes we have about things are not always of our own making. The media and advertising companies drive a lot of how people feel about things.

    People buy big houses and new luxury cars and SUVs and the latest and greatest cell phones or electronic gadgets because the media has told them that they aren't successful or happy until they do. Maxim and Playboy want you to pick a supermodel girlfriend because doing so means your a real man and successful. Glamor and Mademoiselle and Sex in the City think you should pick a rich male mode because they're exciting and you won't be fulfilled until you do. But that's not a reflection of society. That's a ploy to get you to part with your money. And advertising companies know a lot about what it will take to make you spend. First by lowering your self-esteem because you don't have something and then by telling you you'll feel happier once you get what they want you to get. And now those attitudes are becoming pervasive to the point no one is happy because someone else has told them they shouldn't be.

    But that's just my opinion.
  12. Ediciussievol

    Ediciussievol Well-Known Member

    Hey man, this is my new quote of the year. Good advice :)
  13. XXXXX

    XXXXX Antiquities Friend

    I was going to edit your post (to quote it), but to be honest it is all so spot on and well expressed - so I left it :cool:. Even when you know, it still has a drip drip effect. :huh: