Hi SF. I'm usually the type to crack a joke more often than not(or good at putting my foot in my mouth), but this is a serious question, as I'm curious to hear the answer. Maybe this question already exists on this site, but I want to ask it anyway. How do you feel about when someone dies by suicide, or, I guess this is a question more about how do you feel when someone passes in general? How would you feel if, even not knowing me personally, I died, regardless of the cause?
The reason I ask the question is because I want to get to the heart of the matter. I know, it's not fun and something anyone really wants to do, but as the issue comes up I want to know. I guess let me start by telling you all how I would feel;
Let's say any one of you, or me, or a family member, were to die; a very real possibility. My first reaction(and has been for a long time, but stronger than ever now) is 'Thank God they don't have to live here anymore.' Would I be sad? Yes. If it was a particular 'sucky' death, such as suicide, would I be pissed and sickened? Absolutely. But you see, the number one, numero uno thing is that I am happy that I know for sure, for SURE, that this world can absolutely never, ever hurt them again, and yes, that makes me happy. I don't do these cheesy, feel good but really meaningless quotes, like, "Oh I wish they were still here" or something else lame like that. Because see, I take the viewpoint of 'Who the hell in their right mind would want to live in this world?!'. And I say that because I think my mind was made black over the years by my reaction to things I've experienced in this world, and the people who's mind hasn't don't understand. And that sucks, because it separates us, causing isolation.
I want you to know, if anyone of you died the truth is I hate death or pain; if it was a suicide death, than I wouldn't like it of course but know so well the circumstances of that myself. But you know the one thing I wouldn't do? Want you to be here. That is the LAST thing I would want for anyone I loved in this world, to be here. Now if they want to be here, that's different, I'm completely fine with that. If you somehow enjoy this world, or miss parts/things of it, fine, whatever floats your boat. Because I look at it like this; The Goal is Gone. I mean, honestly, shouldn't that really be the long term goal of everyone on this site? Is this really your home, do you want to stay that bad? Now it may sound like I'm promoting suicide, but I'm not. This is just my view and feelings on death. Am I not free to express them?
I usually find the answer to this question is how you can tell the difference between the truly suicidal and the not. I mean, it should be a simple thing; You either want to live in this world, or you don't. My sister(who is older and has a lot of health problems) makes me feel like dirt when she say's, "You know, I try so hard to stay alive and you don't even give a shit." And my usual silent answer to her is, "Joanna, with all the pain you've been through in your life you still want to live? You're a fucking kook, and I'm sorry that we disagree but fuck you then, I don't want people around me who think like that. Totally full of shit." That is my reaction, and how I feel. To want to live here you've either got to be nuts, blind, indifferent, or all three. You disagree? Well do me a favor; if I do kick it, however I check out, don't, DON'T wish for me to still be here, ok? Because honestly that would be the worst thing someone could wish for me I think, and I'm not kidding it actually does piss me off a little, that you'd wish that for me. Because I wouldn't for you no matter what, and that's the truth.
Bonus question; Don't you enjoy it when someone bad or that you really don't like gets killed? You know, that guy in the movie who causes all the problems gets eaten or something? Don't you have like a handful of people you'd just like to see eaten in a Jurassic Park movie? Good, so do I...
The reason I ask the question is because I want to get to the heart of the matter. I know, it's not fun and something anyone really wants to do, but as the issue comes up I want to know. I guess let me start by telling you all how I would feel;
Let's say any one of you, or me, or a family member, were to die; a very real possibility. My first reaction(and has been for a long time, but stronger than ever now) is 'Thank God they don't have to live here anymore.' Would I be sad? Yes. If it was a particular 'sucky' death, such as suicide, would I be pissed and sickened? Absolutely. But you see, the number one, numero uno thing is that I am happy that I know for sure, for SURE, that this world can absolutely never, ever hurt them again, and yes, that makes me happy. I don't do these cheesy, feel good but really meaningless quotes, like, "Oh I wish they were still here" or something else lame like that. Because see, I take the viewpoint of 'Who the hell in their right mind would want to live in this world?!'. And I say that because I think my mind was made black over the years by my reaction to things I've experienced in this world, and the people who's mind hasn't don't understand. And that sucks, because it separates us, causing isolation.
I want you to know, if anyone of you died the truth is I hate death or pain; if it was a suicide death, than I wouldn't like it of course but know so well the circumstances of that myself. But you know the one thing I wouldn't do? Want you to be here. That is the LAST thing I would want for anyone I loved in this world, to be here. Now if they want to be here, that's different, I'm completely fine with that. If you somehow enjoy this world, or miss parts/things of it, fine, whatever floats your boat. Because I look at it like this; The Goal is Gone. I mean, honestly, shouldn't that really be the long term goal of everyone on this site? Is this really your home, do you want to stay that bad? Now it may sound like I'm promoting suicide, but I'm not. This is just my view and feelings on death. Am I not free to express them?
I usually find the answer to this question is how you can tell the difference between the truly suicidal and the not. I mean, it should be a simple thing; You either want to live in this world, or you don't. My sister(who is older and has a lot of health problems) makes me feel like dirt when she say's, "You know, I try so hard to stay alive and you don't even give a shit." And my usual silent answer to her is, "Joanna, with all the pain you've been through in your life you still want to live? You're a fucking kook, and I'm sorry that we disagree but fuck you then, I don't want people around me who think like that. Totally full of shit." That is my reaction, and how I feel. To want to live here you've either got to be nuts, blind, indifferent, or all three. You disagree? Well do me a favor; if I do kick it, however I check out, don't, DON'T wish for me to still be here, ok? Because honestly that would be the worst thing someone could wish for me I think, and I'm not kidding it actually does piss me off a little, that you'd wish that for me. Because I wouldn't for you no matter what, and that's the truth.
Bonus question; Don't you enjoy it when someone bad or that you really don't like gets killed? You know, that guy in the movie who causes all the problems gets eaten or something? Don't you have like a handful of people you'd just like to see eaten in a Jurassic Park movie? Good, so do I...